I'm 29 and my 60 year old Dad is having a BABY?!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your jumping to conclusions. Sorry.

Post # 4
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

you’re absolutely jumping to conclusions, nothing indicates that she is in fact pregnant. but if she was, I assure you you’re gona end up loving this baby, who will be your brother or sister. if you feel resentment over your dad, please don’t let it show in your relationship with your siblin who has nothing to do with it.

you wouldn’t stop being friends with a girl because you don’t like her mom. this is the same.

Post # 5
5222 posts
Bee Keeper

@soontobemrsemr:  whoa whoa whoa– you don’t know anything other than you *think* she didn’t drink and she was wearing a baggy t-shirt. I would stop now before you make yourself upset over something you don’t know to be true.


IF, this gal IS pregnant, you and your familiy will need to do some soul searching. If you decide to cut contact, that is your choice. It is not the child’s fault that he/she was born into a crappy situation with his/her half siblings.

Bottom line: calm down until you for sure what is going on. Their fertility doesn’t impact yours.

Post # 7
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My friends and I are all 28-29 and my friend’s father is 62 and had a baby with a 24 year old. She was upset (to say the least) but she is over it now and loves her little brother. As harsh as this sounds: you need to work on getting over it. He will always be your father.

You dont even know if Karen is really pregnant and, if she is, there is nothing you can do.

Post # 8
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I feel for you.  My fiance is 36 and his father (around 65) has a 3 year-old and a 6 month-old with his 41-year-old wife.  Super creepy in my opinion.  Who wants to do it all over again? 

My fiance also has a 10-year-old son.  So his “aunts” are 7 and 9 years younger than him. 

To each’s own, right?

Post # 9
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@soontobemrsemr:  Why don’t you just flat out ask your dad? If your that curious then just ask. Again your putting random things together to try to prove in your head she’s pregnant. Not trying to be mean so please don’t take it like I am. Also if she is, that child is your sibling. They didn’t do anything wrong so love him/her just like you love your brothers.

Post # 10
14 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

I understand you are rightfully hurt by your dad’s actions but you may be overracting. I agree with previous posters.  You don’t know if she is pregnant, if she is..its not a reflection on you.  Most importantly, please dont take your frustration with your dad out on an innocent baby if she is pregnant.  That child will be your brother or sister whether you like your dad/his girlfriend or not.  Be the bigger person and be loving toward that child (if there even is one).  You don’t have to be pretend excited when talking to yoru dad but please dont transfer any negativity to a baby.

Post # 11
237 posts
Helper bee

As others have said, you’re jumping to conclusions.

A woman I worked with (she is 19), was in a similar situation. Her Dad, in his mid-40s, got together with a woman who was the same age as his daughter. They got pregnant almost immediately after they began dating, and the woman I worked with expressed feelings similar to yours: anger, disgust. She still does not have a good relationship with her father’s girlfriend, but she loves her half-brother so much. They fall asleep cuddling, and she’s very happy to have him – it isn’t the baby’s fault that he was born into this.

Like others have said, if this is indeed the case, you’ll have to do some soul searching.

Post # 12
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

60 – 40 is not a 30 year age difference. Just sayin.


Alas I’m being an asshole, sorry. I would  BE SO PISSED if she were pregnant. And being 40 can be really tricky for a healthy baby. Ugh. Sorry, toots.

Post # 13
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

eh sorry to hear about this , I know it’s one of those ‘icky’ situations.  I dont have any advice but i do know how you feel.  My parents are divorced, my dad cheated on my mom for yrs though didnt divorce until my sister and I were in high school. We’ve had a turbulent relationship w him bc of it but about 3 yrs ago he really began making effort to be in sister/I’s lives. I’m 31 she’s 30 btw.  

When we started rekindling our relationship w him he was dating a 35 yr old ( he was. 57) unfortunately she passed away unexpectedly and my dad took up dating a 25 yr old ( freak in gross!!!) talk about gold digger. I voiced my opinion ( in funny way saying gf had to be my age or older lol) he laughed too.  Now he’s w a 30 yr old woman who has 2 elementary school aged kids from 2 diff guys. still baffles me

Post # 14
1069 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@lealorali:  I think OP was talking about the difference in age between herself and her possible future half-sibling. So yep, you have indeed made yourself look like an asshole (your word).

Post # 15
484 posts
Helper bee

I think you’re being a little irrational. You’re willing to ruin a relationship over an unconfirmed pregnancy? Even if it is confirmed why? Did you not consider that this could be a possibility now that they are a unit? I’m trying to understand your logic.

If she is indeed pregnant don’t project your animosity towards the kid. Take it up with Karen and move on. But what’s done is done. You have to accept she is a permanent staple in your lives now and changes will happen.

you don’t have to like her. But you should try to be the bigger person here and keep things civil. This is not a good reason to alienate yourself from your dad. Heaven forbid something happens to him as he gets older. And the last memories you had with were negative.

My dad is 57 and riddled with health problems and it makes me cry. Just to think of losing him. As they get older it’s a reality. Life is too short to be arguing over things like this. Regardless of the situation with Karen. He’s still your dad.

Post # 16
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@soontobemrsemr:  regardless of whether your dad’s gf is pregnant or not, i strongly suggest you think about adjusting your attitude towards your father and his gf.

i understand that his actions over the past 5 years was a lot to accept but he is your father.  i am sure that he has not always approved of your behaviour throughout your 29 years but he loved you unconditionally and stood beside you supporting your every decision.

if your father is happy; if karen makes him happy; if having another baby makes him happy; that is all that matters.  you need to accept this and be happy for him.  you may not agree, but you need to be happy for him.  would you rather see him miserable???

your father and karen having a baby does not really affect your life directly but having a poor attitude towards your father and karen will begin to indirectly affect your own personal life.  negativity is toxic and if not eliminated, will begin to taint even the pleasant and healthy areas of your life.  (think of it as a cancer).

i really do hope that you come to terms with the situation.  it is 2013, it’s really not all that uncommon.

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