Post # 1
Hi all, I am 32, FI will turn 34 in a couple weeks. We are getting married next April. I have PCOS and this is hindering our ability to have children right now. I’m hoping to lose weight over the next 6 months, my doctor says this will greatly increase my changes of becoming pregnant.
So lets say I am pregnant within a year. That means I will be almost turning 34 when the baby is born and FI will be almost 36. I feel like I am too old now to have kids.. Is 34 too old???
Post # 3
My mom was 37 when she had me (and my dad was 39)! I don’t think you two will be too old at all. Good luck!
Post # 4
Gosh I hope not. I’m 38 and hoping to TTC for our first kid next summer!
Post # 5
@mandanjoe: You definitely are not too old. 🙂
Post # 6
Um no it is not to old, considering I am a first time mom and I had my child at age of 37 and am now 38. We want one more to. Your chances of certain abnormalities does go up with your age. Bigger percent of having a downs syndrome after age of 35…
My child is healthy and no issues, he was born 7 weeks early but that can happen anytime and I was a month early myself and my mom was 21 when she had me…
Post # 7
I am going to go against the norm here and say start trying now. As you have PCOS, it could take longer to conceive. If you need to lose a fair amount of weight, I would start a workout regime and weight loss program asap, and once you lose 10% of your body weight, start trying. Yes, you could be pregnant on your wedding day, or not…but if having children are important to you, why wait to try?
Post # 8
My mum was 37 with me, and 39 with my brothers (twins). We were all only 3 weeks early and all three we’re natural births.
I am sorry to hear you have PCOS. If I were you I’d start trying now. I have mild PCOS in one of my ovaries and my doctor advised not waiting until I reach my thirties. You may not have a problem, but if you do, why wait six months? Good luck!
Post # 9
@mandanjoe: Nope not too old at all. In the past it was normal of women of your age to be having babies, it just was not their first child. Good luck trying to get your POCS under control. And if you want to start to try sooner, why not ask your DH?
Best of luck!!!
Post # 10
A freind of mine who just had her first at 32 told me that her doctor advised that the first child should be born by 35 as medical risks increase significantly if you have your first child later in life.
Post # 11
@mandanjoe: start making babies lol your not too old ; )
Post # 12
my husband is 40.expecting one month before hes 41.. age is just a number!
Post # 13
I’m 31, expecting my first (I’ll be 32 then). I don’t think you’ll be too old, but I’d start sooner rather than later, if possible. You never know how long it will take! As far as age though….I think you’re fine!
Post # 14
I’m 34 and pregnant now with my first. I was very fortunate not to have any difficulty getting pregnant, though I did come off birth control and started charting a few months before we started trying. I don’t think 34 is too old, but if you have PCOS, it makes a lot of sense to really start focusing on weight loss, charting, etc. as soon as possible. The book, “Take Charge of Your Fertility,” is super helpful, if you haven’t taken a look at it already.
Sometimes I do worry about being an “older” mom, but both DH and I are healthy and active, well-educated, financially stable, mature, etc… I think we have a lot to offer a child and will be great parents, despite our age (and to some degree, because of it).
Best of luck!
Post # 15
You’re only too old to have a baby if you go through menopause. No reason you can’t have kids later in life.
Post # 16
34 is not too old. I’m 35 in a few weeks and having a baby in October. But it took two years due to fertility issues that I most likely didn’t have back in my 20’s. (Didn’t know about these things until I was 33 and started trying) So I would start as soon as possible.