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"I'm 88% sure he's the one" That was the quote from Bethanny on the hit show Bethanny getting married? Hearing her say those words hit a chord with me. Can I really say I'm 100% sure that my soon to be husband is the one? Or am I more like 88-95%. Bees, how sure are you? Am I the only one who is not 100%? Please make me feel better about this feeling.
I didn't answer your poll because I don't believe in The One :) I believe there are many Ones for all of us, and I am lucky to have met one of them! There might be someone else out there better, but he's the only one I want. He feels the same about me. To other people it probably sounds like we are settling or whatever, but for us it feels realistic, romantic, and real.
@mountainbride, I don't think it sounds like you are settling at all. As our wedding has approached I have begun to realize there are so many false expectations about how we should be feeling if we have found "the one" it's really nice to hear your realistic view.
There are a lot of things I doubt in life, but whether my fiance is absolutely the person I should marry? Never doubted that at all.
I also don't really believe in "the one". Don't get me wrong, I'm 100% sure that I love my FI and that I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I don't think that people are fated to end up with one person out there. It does sound unromantic to say, and I don't really mean it to. I'm crazy about FI and can't for one second picture myself with someone else.
I'm 88% sure about 25% of the time - the other 75% I'm all-in 100% hands down sure. We have rough patches, we fight, but we are a real couple. I also feel a little guilty about that - but when I saw Bethenny say that, in my head I thought "wow, that is exactly how I feel sometimes."
You're not the only one. Only time will tell I guess!
I agree with many pp. I don't believe in the one, but I do know that we have great potential to live a wonderful life together and be happy with the choice we made.
I agree - the whole concept of there being ONE person for you, in a world of six billion people is a little ridiculous. And yes, I think you could get caught up on the thought of 'what if there is something better out there', but really, it all comes down to the fact of are you happy? Do you enjoy being with your FI? When you look dow n the road, can you see yourself with him, going through the good times and the bad?
I wouldn't get too caught up in analyzing your level of happiness and confidence in your decision - think of why you agreed to marry him in the first place and then think of your life if he was no longer a part of it. I'm guessing the doubts will soon go away.... :-)
Hahha.. on the days I love him-- when he is not driving me crazy---I'm 100% sure.
On the days he drives me mad... I'm not sure at all!
FHs are like wedding dresses. Many are beautiful, within our price range, and look good on us, but in the end, we can only have one.
I agree with mountain.bride that there are many "ones" out there, but if you're lucky enough to find one of them on a planet of 6 billion people, you're doing well.
Me? I'm 100% sure, but it took me 25 years to figure that out.
@lisalew5472: ah but some of us are two dress brides ;) just a joke!
I belive what many other posters on here think. Many ones out there and I found one of them. Do I love him 100% of the time, yes! But do I like him 100% of the time, no :)
@stlginkgo: I totally agree, I love FI 100% of the time, but I don't like him 100% of the time! Thankfully I like him 98% of the time so it works out ;)
I'm with you ladies, I think there are lots of "right" people out there for each of us. If I had never met FI there would have been another "right" guy for me. I think there are different people for different times in your life, you just have to find one that you can grow together with over a long span of time. I love FI, I love our life together, I'm looking forward to wheelchair races in the old folks home together some day. We have a great future ahead of us. It's a matter of long term compatibility for me (although clearly that's not everything but if you boil it down that's the big factor!).
I also think that it could work with more than one person. I disagree that it's unromantic though.... I CHOOSE to be with my husband until the end of our lives, now that's romantic!!
I didn't vote. I don't think anyone is really "the one." What I mean to say is, you never can be sure. I think that would be unrealistic. He is the one I want to WORK at a relationship with, and commit to, because he feels right and he is right right now. There is never any guarantee. I think understanding that keeps me appreciating what we have, and working at it.
I don't believe in The One either. I think love + timing + work = an awesome marriage.
I don't believe there is one either, or else why would we meet other people when we break up?! Doesn't make any sense to me at least 
Right now, I'm 100% sure he's the one. But I'm not a mind-reader or psychic... so I don't know what will happen in the future. People and things change, and I totally understand that... so who know what will happen. But I sure HOPE we stay 100% in love forever. :)
I don't believe in "the one" either, but I still voted 100% because I have absolutely no doubt that he is the man I WANT to be with for the rest of my life.
i am so sure he is the one i get tears in my eye when i think a bout it he is the one .ps we been together for 4years we getting maregge feb2011
@mountain.bride: I agree with you. I don't think you are settling at all. I also believe there may be another "one" for us, but when we are lucky enough to find one of them we must embrace it.... one of the others may never come along, and even if he did, I will have already invested time and emotion with this one and I will love him even more that day than the day we married. I do believe love (with the right one) grows through time and life experiences with them.
i've been 100% sure since about one month into our relationship. which isn't to say that i've had some brief moments of doubt in the 4+ years we've been dating. but my gut just told me he was it. we've grown and changed quite a bit - met in our mid 20s and are now entering our 30s - but i think its only been for the better!
It took me 41 years to find him. I was perfectly happy living my days out alone. I am 100% certain he is the one.
Thank God I don't believe in "the One" or I would have never met my fiancee. He is 6 years younger than I am and I would have immediately stayed away from him if I was preoocipied looking for "the one" to marry. We are perfect for each other NOW. In 10 years our feelings may be different but we will hope and try our best to keep it up. meanwhile I agree with all the ladies who say when he is sweet it's 100% and when he annoys me it's down to 70%.
I don't believe in a "the one" either in terms of the only person out there who I would be compatable with. But I am 100% sure that I am happy with my FI and can't see past him for anyone else. Even though we have problems (who doesn't) he is the one I want to sit with and talk openly with to work those problems out. He is everything I am looking for, and I accept him flaws and all.
I don't believe in "the one", but I do believe that J and I are compatible, we love and care for each other, and I can see myself building a life with him and spending my days with him as my partner. What more can you ask for?
I don't believe in the 'one' I believe that there are many people that I could be compatible.
Am I 100% sure he is the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with - yes!
I dont believe in the one either, just seems silly and another one of the movie things that people try to make real.
I know I love being with him (most of the time :P) we ballance each other out, I can really be myself with him. He makes me laugh and we drive each other crazy! and right now I couldnt imagine being with anyone else. to me thats all that matters.
I didn't believe in The One. It just sounds crazy, but then I saw McGroom and I knew. He doesn't believe me, but I called two people and told them that day I saw my husband; I didn't know his name, how to find him again, or why he was at my work, but he was my husband. That said, it's not been all sunshine and roses. We argue and have to make it work, but we do. There's no other choice. So maybe it doesn't happen like that for everyone, but that doesn't mean their relationships are less meaningful and loving. It just means we met differently.
I voted 90%- 99% because I am 100% sure that he is the one for me but his family, that's another story.
I don't believe in "The One."
I am 100% sure that I love him and want to spend my life with him. But who knows - maybe there are other guys out there who would've fit the bill. I don't care, and I'm not looking, but they're probabl out there somehwere.
I know I couldn't ask for anything more....My husband is everything and anything I could ever want and I am 100% certain about that. It would be really difficult to find someone who has so many of the qualities I was looking for while also lacking many of the negative qualities I was trying to avoid.
Like many other bees, I don't believe in "The One" either. My fiance and I happened to meet on very unusual circumstances, and if just one tiny event changed in either of our lives, we probably would have never met. It's strange how seemingly small decisions can have such a huge impact on your life. I'm sure if my life took me down another path that I would find someone who I love as much as I love my fiance. That being said, I am 100% certain that I want to spend the rest of my life him.
I put 80% down. FI is one of my closest freinds, even when we dated other people, we would chat online for hours a day. Shoot, he would third-wheel on my dates lol. I think we have the same goals, alot of the same views, agreement on the fundamentals of life, etc. But, there are alot of things about him that I would have never "envisioned" as my "the one" qualities. For one, he is a body builder - and I usually dated men with average builds, not Mr. Olympia. He is "Mr. Clean" bald, never saw myself with that. Some of the things he says, (insert foot), I get very annoyed with. lol. I could go on and on. Was it giggly/butterfly love that makes me feel like he was made for me? No. But we have dated nearly 2 years without even a fight, so I think we have built something as strong as 2 people can build it. He's never made me cry, everyone else I have dated has hurt me in some way. But, I think that is more than supermatural "meant to be" stuff, its timing, work, compatibility... That said, I have prayed about this relationship and I asked God to take him from me if he was not the right person, and in the past he would make good on that prayer. He's still here so perhaps in God's eyes, he WAS the only man intended for me. If he is "the one" or one of many possible "ones" = I'm glad we are where we are.
one hundred bazillion percent sure. We are a "2'nd time around" couple. I know in the depths of my soul we were made for each other and I would never be as happy for the rest of my life with anyone else but him. (Sorry we are LD right now and I'm also missing him mucho AND pms'ing....can we say emotional....
Statistically, 40% of first-time brides will end up divorced. And the statistics are even worse for those who have been married before. Yet I don't see any bride, ever, saying, "I'm only 60% sure." So how sure a bride is doesn't seem to correlate with how likely it actually is that she will end up divorced.
In my first marriage, I felt sure we would stay together, if only because I was determined to make it work. However, even that was not enough. I tried as hard as I could, but he left anyway. Since none of the girlfriends he had before or after me lasted more than a year or so, I figure that being with him for 20 years counts as an accomplishment.
This time around, I did everything I could to increase the odds. My children are out of the house, so the issues created between stepparents and stepchildren aren't a concern. I was 56 and she was 41 when we married, so we're not changing as fast as couples in their 20s. I had lived with her for nearly nine years before our marriage, so there weren't a lot of surprises left on that score. So I am as sure as I possibly can be. But I'm also old enough to know that even that is no guarantee.
I 100% agree with mountain.bride... I think that there are many "the ones" out there for us, but if you find one of them, marry him!!! But, I'm 100% certain about my decision to marry my fiance... I don't have any doubts at all. I know our relationship will never be perfect, but I'm really happy with him and it will take a lot of work to stay married forever. But, it's the commitment that keeps couples together, not the person being "the one". I don't know... I've been with my fiance for 11 years and I'm soon-to-be 31, so my perspective is probably different from other brides. It does seem to be spot on with all you fellow bees, though! :)
I'm not sure I believe in 'the one' either. But after only a few weeks of dating (we knew each other for 1.5 years before our first date) I knew I wanted to marry him, I wanted to have his children and that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him :)
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