Post # 1
Ok, so I’ll be the first to admit that I’m being a huge baby here. And I’m probably coming across as very clingy and emotional. While I’m very sensitive, I don’t think I’m clingy but I’ve been wrong many a time before. So here goes, I hope I get advice (not get torn a new one if you know what I mean) because I think you ladies (and gentlemen) have fabulous advice and might be able to tell me how I can deal with this or pull myself together or whatever!
My FI has to go on a business trip in June for a few days. We are never apart. We’ve lived together for 3 years and see each other every day. I don’t have a problem staying by myself safety wise, I’m just going to miss him. And I feel so stupid for feeling this way because its not even a full week! Its 4 days total! I think he’s upset about it because I knows I’m upset. Am I just being a sook? After we get married he’s got to go for a couple more days but hopefully I’ll be able to deal with it better after the first trip.
I think at this point I feel bad for feeling bad and I don’t want him to regret going. Its a fantastic opportunity for him. I think its just time for me to suck it up and be a big girl. I know that, but I’m looking for ways to deal with it. Has anyone else been a big baby like me and can tell me how to get through it? I feel so silly.
Post # 3
@JavaBean: haha! i know how you feel! i have been visiting a friend and hour away from me and my mans home since monday. and i miss him sooo much! i wasn’t expecting that! i was mplanning on staying for a week but now i want to go home already! just think of it like this: you’ll both be so excited to see each other it will be awsome when he gets back!
Post # 4
don’t worry you will realize how awesome it is to spend some time alone!
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice, ladies! Just a quick question I should have asked before… should I try not to cry when he leaves? Is it normal to cry? I’m a bit on the sensitive side when it comes to crying, I cry to almost every slow country song! haha
Post # 6
My FH will be getting home from a 5 day business conference tomorrow, so I know where you’re coming from! I hate it when he leaves 🙁 I don’t have any advice on how to get through it…just be tough, and know that he’ll be home soon 🙂
Post # 7
Oh, and abscence makes the heart grow fonder 🙂
Post # 8
To help get your mind off of him being gone, you should schedule some nights out with friends. Maybe some people you don’t see often enough. I know that’s what’s been helping me get through my LDR.
Post # 9
Keep busy!!! Plan times out with girlfriends, get housework done that you have on your to-do list, go out to a movie/spa. Occupy your time and it’ll fly by!
ETA: I am so jealous that you only have to have your guy gone for a few days… my hubby is leaving soon for a year for the military and most of that time we won’t be able to communicate except through letters. So, sometimes it’s a blessing to only have him gone for a few days because it could be worse!! 😉
Post # 10
Talk to some women who have a SO in the military, I’m sure they can give you advice.
Post # 11
4 days isn’t so bad. My FH is stationed in CA and I live in KY the day after we got engaged I had to go back home and we won’t get to see each other till we get married. We won’t get to live together the first year of our marriage because he deploys to Afganistan. Just keep busy and make lots of plans with your friends. The time will fly by.
Post # 12
I know it’s tough but you need to take it day by day. Find things to keep yourself busy so you don’t just sit around and think about how much you miss him. It was the worst for me when we first moved and didn’t have money so I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything.
Post # 13
Yup. FI is home on leave for another 17 days and then he is gone for 6 months. And he is gone where he could be hurt. And he is gone where communication back home is difficult.
So while I do understand that the separation is hard, you should buck up and count your lucky stars it’s only for a week.
Post # 14
I know exactly how you feel!! I am going on a 4 day trip with my sister in 2 weeks (!!) and then on a 3 day trip a month later for work. hubs and I haven’t been a night apart in 4 years, and I am definitely bummed but we will both have to get used to it with the job that I have now.
Like others have said, keep yourself busy!
Post # 15
Wow! Thanks for the flood of advice. I definitely need to count myself lucky as it isn’t a long time and doesn’t happen often at all. Thanks for keeping me in check and making me realize the bigger picture. You all are super!
Post # 16
I am actually in the same situation! My SO is going away for a bachelor party weekend. These two nights will be the first two nights I have spent away from him in over 7 months! I’m nervous about spending the night alone in our apartment, but I’m also nervous about me going crazy with worry while he’s gone. I also have not gone a day without seeing him in sooo long, even before we moved in together they were few and far between. No getting around it, I love spending time with him and we are together so much that it’s just gonna suck 🙁 Hang in there girl!