- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
OK– I feel really bad about this, but I think it was the best decision for my sanity and stress level heading into the final bend in wedding planning.
I kicked out a bridesmaid. Well, asked her to step down. Well, had one of my other bridesmaids ask her to step down.
I’ve only known this girl for about a year and a half and she is the girlfriend of one of the guys in our circle. I asked her in a moment of engagement bliss, but since then I have not SEEN her at all. Halloween party last year. She never calls, never texts. She has made a few facebook comments, but nothing except “Cute!” etc.
I’ve had a few bridesmaids events in the past few months, and she hasn’t come to any. The one this past weekend (makeup trials) she had rsvp’d for a month in advance and then texted 20 minutes before saying she forgot she had a baby shower and she was sorry.
Her bf, meanwhile, has not talked to any of the guys since that party (nothing happend at that time, I think it was something later that weekend, and then he moved out of his apartment and pretty much left the circle, even thought they have been friends since 1st grade.)
I am the most nonconfrontational person ever, and I was willing to keep her in the party, but was getting really stressed and worried, not to mention not knowing if I could count on her to show up for anything but the wedding (if that even). Still, I was going to keep her because I had asked her, and didn’t want to go back on that. But at the advice of my bridesmaids, we appointed one to call her and ask if she was interested in continuing in the party. All she got was a string of excuses, but she never answered the question, so the bridesmaid told her we would just be moving on without her.
I feel like a weight’s been lifted off me, and I am so happy to have just my friends in the party, and really excited for all future events now. She hasn’t texted or called me directly since she txted to cancel saturday. She had a vague FB status about true colors, but that was it.
But I feel like a bridezilla now. Was I wrong for doing this?