- 2 years ago
apologies for the big, long, ranty post.
You know what? I never planned to be a bridezilla when I first got engaged, in fact, I was the opposite!
Hey girls can you pick your own dresses/hairstyles shoes etc?
sure FMIL you can invite your whole family I’ve never met before (to keep the peace)
I considered myself quite laid back and tried my best to comprimise with just about everyone so that everyone else would enjoy the experience too!
but you know what, I am a bridezilla. At least, I am now. I’m not one to avoid responsibility, but it’s not my fault.
That word – Bridezilla, gets thrown around far too much, and unfairly so!
So the moments that probaby shaped my bridezilla behaviour are as follows (at least, these are the highlights)
despite telling the bridesmaids I wanted them to be comfortable and to choose their own dresses, no one did. So I had to chase them. Chase them for measurements, chase them for money, and all while repeatedly asking if they were happy with the style/colour etc because I really do want them to be comfortable.
Best man decides he wants nothing to do with the bucks night, other groomsmen complain to me about what I’m going to do about it.
Schedule dance rehearsals to work around everyones plans etc, everyone complains.
send out invite then spend weeks chasing people who thought it wasn’t necessary to RSVP. Like why would I go to the effort of sending you a RSVP card if I didn’t want you to return it.
My brother deciding that he’s not coming to the wedding (which I’m fine with) but having to deal with my parents blame me for him deciding this.
Then theres the other residual stress of wedding planning, dress isn’t here yet, vendors not getting back to me etc etc
so I’m under all this stress, people are continuously at me to the point where if I’m not firm and say “your RSVP was due weeks ago, if you don’t return it within 2 days I’m going to assume you’re not coming” then nothing will get done.
There’s only so much any person can take of this,
But of course IM THE BRIDEZILLA.
Not, youre unreliable/forgetful/lazy
NO! Of course it’s me. I mean that’s what the bridezilla label is for right?
I must be insane because I’m getting married.
Wedding sure as hell bring out the best in people.