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    twocatcupcake    September 17, 2010   Fargo, ND

    FH's aunt called last wknd and asked if she and another aunt could host a shower for me labor day weekend.  I wasn't thinking much about it and said 'sure!'  I SO regret it now.  Its SO close to the wedding, all my other weekends are booked.. I have NO time to relax!  I wish so much that I had just politely said no.  Ugh. 

     

    Tell me I can't get out of it now and will be fine driving more than an hour to a shower that I don't want to go to.  :(

     
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    mishelleez    November 5, 2010   DW- Bahamas

    U'll be fine, Just think more presents!

     
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    MissBuffalo    November 2011  

    They're doing it because they love you and who knows, maybe it will be fun?

    Eek it might be too late now to back out.

     
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    PinkBubbleGum    September 2011  

    it might be too late you cancel. If you really don't want to, I'd call up and casually ask how much as been done or "are we still on for the shower labor day weekend?" If she gets going about all the things planned, then just don't say anything. If she hasn't done much, maybe you can suggest canceling. 

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    My shower was the day before my wedding!  You'll be fine - don't stress and just go and have a good time!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I think your aunts are very sweet for wanting to give you a shower, and you already said yes, so I would leave it alone. You can relax after the wedding and/or take a few days before the wedding to relax. It doesn't have to be a weekend.

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    I'm thinking that it's too late for you to cancel. It might be fun...and they're trying to do it b/c they obviously love you and want to honor you. Try to take it in stride and as a really nice gesture on their part. Will you still have Sunday to relax?

     
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    Jizes318    November 19, 2010   Miami

    I would go. To be honest when it is all over and done with you miss all the time you put into the wedding and all those things that may annoy you now or you feel exhausted believe me you will miss it I promise! I have a feeling you will regret not going once everything is said and done. Go have a blast...

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    When it's all over, you'll be happy you let them do it for you because it will make them happy!

     
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    dance    July 23, 2011   Alberta, Canada

    I think it's probably too late!  But just remember - all you have to do is show up, eat some yummy food, open some presents, maybe play a few games, and then go home.  Yes - it would be nice to have the day to relax but you don't have any part in planning this thing, so it really isn't more work for you!  They are doing it because they love you, so go and enjoy it!  You will have forever to relax from wedding planning as soon as the wedding is done - and that will come so fast! 

     
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    MissDonnaAnne    August 26, 2012   Hamilton, NJ

    I think at this point you have no choice but to let them have their fun, and make the best of it. I know it must be a little frustrating and overwhelming, but sometimes you just have to grin and bear it :)

     
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    Encore    May 2011   Maryland

    Oh how I know this feeling, but you're too far in to back out now. Just try to think positively about it. His aunt is trying to welcome you to the family and do something nice for you. Even though you're worn out and have a lot going on, try to think of it as relaxing and fun and be positive.

    And if all else fails, remember it's only a few hours and then you can have the evening to yourself. ;)

     
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    stillme    October 2010  

    I hear you--I'm getting married the same weekend and really want time to myself that I don't have! Still, I think it may be too late to back out at this point. They probably have started planning and may even have invited people...and maybe you can keep that evening free to just relax and not think about the wedding at all!

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    i would go - to put it in perspective, at least you are getting a shower. im not *pout*

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    At least it's a long weekend and you'll still have an extra day to relax or run errands.  Also who knows, you may actually enjoy it. I wasn't too enthusiastic about the shower my MIL threw for me but it ended up being really fun.

     
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    Mrs.MedinaJr    November 11, 2011   Houston

    I will go in your place =) I love parties especially the ones where I am the center of attention, cake is included, food, friends and family, and PRESENTS!!!!

     
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    flakeofsnow    1/9/2010  

    I would ask them if they mind not hosting.  Offer them to co-host with another shower host.  Tell them your concerns and say you feel thankfull they offered but it's not a great option for you right now.

     
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    Rgeddy    June 13, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    my shower was the day before my wedding also and you'll be fine!  Mine was also hours after my bachelorette party (crazy) and during our mani/pedi's, and hours before the actual rehearsal & rehearsal dinner.  pheeeww be glad you have some weekends/time free!

     
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    MadiLove918    May 2011   Palm Bay, FL

    Aww, I can totally empathize with you on feeling exhausted and simply wanting a weekend to relax.  Buuuut, I would go!  This is going to be one of the fondest times of your life -- I'd soak up every moment, even if you're a wee bit tired.  Clear your slate for every chance after the shower to rest up in prep for your big day.  Have fun!

     
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    twocatcupcake    September 17, 2010   Fargo, ND

    I want to thank ALL of you for realizing I'm not saying 'oh poor me, people are having parties for me!'  I got the invite in the mail today - now I'm REALLY going.  lol. 

     
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    Ms. Meowerson    May 12, 2012  

    i'm sure it'll be a blast!

     

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