Post # 1
So we’re post wedding and things have been going swimmingly with the exception of the thank you notes. We had roughly 200 guests at our wedding so needless to say the thank you’s are a big job along with I think it is appropriate to write a personal note for each instead of a standard “Thanks for the gift”. My husband, on the other hand, has been putting them off and putting them off. I feel like a nagging wife every time I ask, “Did you get any thank you notes done?” I have completed three quarters of the notes, while he watches a baseball game or works on his music with friends. Any ideas on how to approach him and get them done?
Post # 3
This is probably a much longer answer than you were looking for, but I was JUST reading Dr. Laura’s book, “The proper care and feeding of husbands,” and it’s hilarious and helpful, because the basic idea behind it is, “DONT NAG.” And she does give examples of things to do. I think every married woman should read this!
Post # 4
Maybe he thinks you’ll just do it. Tell him that you need his help, the faster you two get them done, the faster you can go back to regular life. (only say it once) Leave the stuff on the table or somewhere he likes to sit, maybe if it invades his space he’ll be more willing to do them to get rid of it all.
Post # 5
My husband was the same way with the thank you notes. I gave him a deadline and told him I’d be pissed if they didn’t get done because it would be really rude to keep our guests waiting another week. I felt like a nag hag, but it had to be done. I can catch him with sugar when it comes to other things.
Post # 6
It was the same way with TY notes and my husband. I did most of them but then one day I just said okay we are doing these together right now since it’s not fair that I’ve done 75% of them! We sat down together and he did the ones for his family/family friends and I did my people. Then it was done!
Post # 7
HAH the same thing is happening to me right (we even have the same wedding date!). I finished my side, they are much more picky about those sorts of things and there was way more family from my side than his. I ask him about it sometimes, but he just gets defensive when I ask. I just don’t know what to do, but I’m not going to write all of them! Gr.
Post # 8
DH had to do about 1/3 of them (mostly his family, but some of mine) I asked him what date is a date he thinks is a good deadline. He gave it to me.
I thought it was a little on the long side so I asked him to do my family first and mail right away and then move on to his family.
So all the ones I wrote and my family went out right away and then he did his. He was within a week of his own deadline, but at least it was his family and in his handwriting so if they wondered why they were late, they knew it was his delay, not mine.
Post # 9
I’m so happy that other people feel the same way!