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We don't have a wedding party, my ceremony is secular and in the same location as the reception, my dress is tea length and my FI helped pick it out. Is that non-traditional enough for you?
@Lemma - you are def a non-traditional bride and I LOVE IT. I'm too having my ceremony and location at the same place I'm also having a cocktail reception vs the big sit down dinner.. #1 I'm not trying to feed the masses and #2 Weddings/Receptions are about celebrating not just sitting down looking at some random person you don't know at the table.. :) I hope you picked poll answer #4 cause you rock missy!
@LOGAHN1981: Hah. Actually, I picked answer #3. I guess I don't feel like my choices are all that groundbreaking because my brother just got married in a secular ceremony at the same location as the reception, with no wedding party.
I am doing the traditional sit down dinner, but I think that doing a cocktail reception is a great idea also! I basically want to feed my guests so that they will have enough energy to party on the dance floor to my German polka band (another non-traditional thing) afterward!
Edit: I meant to say I picked answer #3. I've fixed that now.
We went to the courthouse to get married instead of having a big wedding, and we had a reception the next day at a local restaurant. No real wedding party. I wore a short green dress. No toasts, no first dance, bouquet toss, garter stuff...basically, the most traditional aspect was that we got married and had a reception at all, haha.
@Lemma - I love all the little non-tradional aspects of your wedding. To me not following the "the cookie cutter or cut of the cloth" routine makes that more special to you and your FH and makes your wedding YOUR wedding. Not everyone elses wedding :)
@Mrs Grape - thumbs up missy .. love your non-traditional-ism.
@LOGAHN1981: Thanks. :) It was SO much easier and less stressful (not to mention way less expensive) than the big wedding we had started out planning.
@LOGAHN1981: UGH I got the same thing. I lived with my now hubby for 2 years and seriously people the "gig" is up! He calms me and makes me happy. I loved our little stolen moment of the morning of our wedding just the 2 of us. But we were both up and out the door by 8am!
@Mrs Grape: I used to plan on wearing a green dress to my wedding. It turned out that the one thing my FI cares about was me wearing a whitish dress.
Your wedding sounds lovely. Congrats!
We got married in Mexico in a gazebo on the beach. Overall there wasn't much that was traditional about our wedding except for a white dress, a bride and groom, and vows. lol
We got married in the middle of a hockey game. My family thought it was crazy, but it was totally us. :)
@rachiecakes: That's so rad!
@Lemma: Thanks! I started out wanting a red dress, but it somehow got switched to green along the way, lol. I tried on some white/ivory gowns, but none of them really did a whole lot for me. Sometimes I think it would have been cool, but I wouldn't have felt like "myself" in a traditional gown, as weird as that probably sounds.
I'm definitely not traditional. For example, I'm currently discussing making another wedding dress out of duct tape for the big day. Lol.
I have a wooden and moissanite ring. I guess that's fairly nontraditional!
LOVE this thread! Seriously. I applaud all of you.
We're planning a simple Las Vegas wedding followed by dinner in a restaurant with about 30 people. Nothing more. I'm wearing a sheath dress(sorta non traditional, def not common). No first dance or any dance, no cake, no garter, no huge band/dj, no veil, no programs, no speeches, no toast. I could go on.
FMIL is not pleased. woops.
@Mrs Grape - I wish I had went the NON STRESSFUL ROUTE.. I'm going crazy right now 3 days!
@irishbride2be- Exactly like I can wait to roll over at 6am and say "Guess what today is?" and we will have his daughter so it will be extra special to spend a few of those moments with her to make her feel special to and then it's on to the running around.
@rachiecakes- LOVE IT !
@Rachael432- Wow that's sounds interesting but I'm sure it will be beautiful ;). And thats def not traditional.. You go girl!
@leafgum- please post pics I would love to see your ring
@MASPA - love you wedding idea. Well we Non-Traditional brides need a thread lol!
I'm getting married in FL only having my sister attend. My FH and I will be staying in the same hotel room and bed the night before the wedding. He will drive us to our hair appointments and we are driving to the beach together after I am ready. We are having a reception but we are not doing father daughter dances, dollar dance, bouquet toss, etc. My deco it eclectic and not super matchy matchy.
I get the same thing......"well you have to wear white, well you have to wear shoes, well you have to have real flowers" ect. UGH!
We are getting married in the desert (Our meaningful place), we will not be wearing shoes, my dress is NOT going to be pure white----it might not even be white! My dress is short. We are having my fiances best friend marry us, and there is no wedding party (our guest list is at 40 but it's destination so I'm sure it will be a lot smaller)....I'd say I am pretty non-tradiional, and I am SO proud of it.
I don't have a picture of it on my hand at the moment, but here is the website.
http://www.simplywoodrings.com/ring_shop/product_info.php?cPath=31&products_id=117
@MarryMeTiffany- That is going to be so much fun
@Candace From BC- Aww I love the fact that you are proud of it and I love the fact that you choose a meaningful place to you all and not the place most people would have wanted you to pick.
@leafgum- OMG Those are amazing. Like I seriously want one just to have one that is so unique I've never seen anything like it before.
My FI and I will be staying together the night before as well, but I will probably send him to his families house to get ready. We are doing a standing ceremony under a gazebo with about 15 people, no bridal party. I am wearing a white dress and veil with flip flops, my FI will wear a suit. We are going to a restrauant after for dinner with everyone, no cake, no decorations, no dance, no toast etc. I will have a small bouquet and get my hair done but I am doing my own makeup, my dad will drive me there in his truck and FI will take his own car. And we will probably take our honeymoon 6 months after in the winter time. Pretty non-traditional.
We're still debating the night before question but there's just as good a chance that we'll spend it together as not. After all, we're not worried about the not seeing each other bit: we're planning to have the cocktail hour *before* the ceremony, attend it together and walk down the aisle together, too.
Other non-traditional elements include writing our ceremony start to finish with our officiant (a friend who'll be getting ordained online or become a notary just so she can officiate our wedding) and making all the "florals" out of paper, felt and whatever else I feel like as the project progresses.
There are plenty of traditional bits I love and respect, but not all of them are for me/us and we're okay with that :)
@Genuine513- we are also taking a later honeymoon and I'm fine with it because I can go whereever I want beacuse can save up the money. :)
@thirdtimebride- I love the fact that you all walking down the aisle together.
I'm non-traditional all the way. I'd rather create new traditions than follow ones that don't have meaning to us personally, just for something to do. If someone doesn't like it, oh well, they don't have to show up.
COOL! ok, here goes.
Traditional:
I'll be wearing an ivory dress (no train or veil though) and carry a flower bouquet
I'm having bridesmaids (three) in the same colour dress
My aunts are hosting a bridal shower for me a few months before
Traditional order of events: ceremony, wine and nibbles reception while we take some photos, the buffet dinner, toasts, and then get down to dancing
Will spend the night at the hotel by our venue, and have a close family morning-after brunch the next day
Non-traditional:
My partner proposed with a necklace, not a diamond ring
Sending invitations on recycled material, tree-free paper
Civil, spiritual ceremony, non-religious
Cupcakes, no "cutting of the cake"
I'm giving myself away, not my Dad
oh yeah, and I'm marrying another woman.
;)
@mtnhoney: you win! 
For me:
My rings are super non-traditional (raw and brown/gray-toned diamonds)
Haven't ordered one yet, but I'm 99% sure that my dress is going to be tea-length or shorter
We're getting married at a music venue! Reception at the same place.
We're going to walk down the aisle together--no formal processional and no give-away.
Ceremony is secular.
I haven't convinced my fiance yet, but I'd love to greet our guests as they arrive--I don't really like the whole hide-the-bride-and-then-do-a-big-reveal thing. When we host people at our house, we greet them at the door... I'd like to extend the same hospitality at our wedding.
Centerpieces will just be baskets of apples--pretty and CHEAP. I can't handle the thought of spending so much money on something that will die in a few hours.
Similarly, I think I might get a bouquet of felted roses instead of real flowers. I'd like to be able to keep it forever!
We're skipping every single one of the usual reception rituals--every single one--except our first dance.
Ohhhhhhh show me your rings please!! I love raw diamonds!! If they're what I'm thinking of, at least.
Just going away to a destination wedding and truly only inviting people we want to be there (not even my cousins) is non-traditional enough for my family :)
Well, first of all, the FI and I are both chicks....although I guess, depending on where you're from, that may be traditional...we live in KY so I vote non-traditional.
We're getting married at an Aquarium and having a live penguin at our cocktail hour. I'm really girly and yet I have all the guys in my wedding party and vice versa for her. Both of our parents will walk us down the aisle.
We're doing an oathing stone instead of unity candle/sand...
Pretty traditional but I think it will be fun.
Your post made me really think about our pre-wedding lodging plans. I was going to stay at our appartment (it was mine before he moved in anyway) and planned on sending him to his parents' for the night... But you just reminded me that neither of us sleep well alone. Without our bedtime routine (more of a ritual really) I can't bring myself to go to bed!!!
Maybe we'll take the same route...
I am about to cry reading this! It's exactly what I want to do!!! Exactly!!! I found an awesome short black dress- I want only my father at the court house (he is disabled and I want him there)
And then- a saturday afternoon cocktail reception to appease my mom. But I feel like I should pnt even bother at all because my mom is being a cruel woman. Ugh
She makes me feel like I am a waste of a daughter because I dont want a white fluffy dress and 200 people.
Please help me
I'm getting married in a theater... some family members just rolled their eyes and said "parks and churches are above you?" Sigh... they arent at all we just wanted something more US and in our budget... a lot of our wedding is untraditional actually. The biggest thing is that the reception and the ceremony will feature EDM (electronic dance music) like trance and techno rather than traditional favorites because thats what our friends and WE like. I'm not trying to please anyone. My dress is pretty out there too but I love her!
I am not having a wedding cake. my fiance and i dont like cake... why should we pay the insane amount of money for a CAKE that we dont want to eat and for the price to be crazy just because its for a wedding the food is already enough!
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Afternoon Bees,
So today after hearing, okay not even hearing but being told "I shouldn't stay at my house that we pay a mortgage on every month, with my FH the night before my wedding, because it's not what your supposed to do and it doesn't work etc." I'm sick and TIRED of telling people I'm NOT the Traditional Bride.. Far from it . Yes I plan to stay with my Honey the night before heck we've been living together for 3 years, we have to get up at 6:30 am to get the rental car and my step daughter and I have to be at the hairdresser by 8, and I can't sleep without him. When I explain the whole "can't see your bride/groom the night before the wedding reason from back in the day, I was told that was a wives tale when it's truly fact". Maybe it's stress because it's 4 days until the big day, maybe I'm trying into a bridezilla. But either way why does it matter that I DON'T follow the "rules" of a bride.. I'm NOT Traditional, My Dress isn't traditional and my ring isn't either. So Whyyyyyy start with this. UGH.. Crazy people.. LOL.. Sorry for the rant..
So what's your non-traditional aspect to your wedding and if your a non-traditional bride let me "see" you say it..
"DARN IT I'M A NON TRADITIONAL BRIDE AND I'M DARN PROUD OF IT"