Post # 1
I had a pretty bad day today but really I know I should stop caring about myself and start worrying about other people.
One of my BMs had a C-section and although she keeps telling me she will try to make it I am not counting on it. She has a three hour drive to my wedding and I do not expect her to make that drive 8 days after giving birth.
I got home from work to find out that FI’s grandma had a heart attack and will probably still be in the hospital for our wedding.
I know it’s only a couple of things and I know I should stop feeling sorry for myself. So on top of these two things happening I’m feeling really guilty for being selfish.
Help me snap out of it bees. I know that people will enjoy our wedding. I know I will too even with my best friend missing and FI’s grandma in the hospital. I guess I just wish that things could have gone smoothly for this. Here’s to hoping nothing else happens in the next 8 days.
Post # 3
It doesn’t sound to me like you’re being selfish at all. It sounds like you’re worried about them, and dissapointed with the situation in general. I think that’s pretty normal. If your only concern was how it effects your wedding, maybe that would be a bit selfish, but to me it doesn’t sound like that at all. I’m sorry all this is happening, and I hope they get better soon. Don’t be so hard on yourself though. 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsBeck: You don’t sound selfish to me either: it’s not like you’re saying “well grammy and my friend should STILL make it, monitors and IVs still attached! It’s MY day!”……..which sounds like something I could see being said on here :-p
I think your reaction is normal, and I’m sorry those folks won’t be able to make it to your wedding 🙁 Maybe someone can snap a cell pic of the two of you waving or blowing a kiss and someone could send it to them so they know they are on your minds 🙂
Post # 5
Oh lovey… Your arent being selfish with all the stress and pressure of a wedding its difficult to have things not go as planned. in the end it’s about You and your future husband. That’s all that’s required to show up. just give yourself some time to process or grieve that they won’t be there and things should get easier closer to the date. when your standing up there saying your vows you won’t be worried about who’s in attendance. *hugs*
Post # 6
HUGS!! that sounds awful. i got a sense of calm a few days before my wedding, all I could think was as long as DH and the minister show up, I’m OK. and truly nothing else really mattered.
Post # 7
I would feel the same way. When your day comes I think you will be just fine! Have you gone to visit your friend and the baby yet?
Post # 8
@HappySky7: Thank you for the kind words! I guess I just worry that people will take my disappointment the wrong way. Thankfully they are both recovering nicely so although they may not be able to make it at least they are doing better.
@badabing88: Oh gosh, I can see that happening too! That’s a great idea! I always forget about technology and doing things like that when I’m freaking out!
@Spyderlillie: True- I need to start taking deep breaths and remembering that the vows and marraiage are all that matter because I’m sure this week will be rather stressful!
@edgebee: I’m hoping I get that sense of calm too. I feel like I’m still freaking out about everything. Friday I’m going for some pampering with some friends so hopefully by then I will be able to relax!
@gelaine22: I haven’t been able to unfortunately She lives about 10 hours from me and about 3 hours from the wedding. That’s why this is so disappointing to me- I probably won’t get to see her or baby until September now. Same with his grandma- we haven’t been able to visit because we live about 7 hours away. Both are doing well now so at least we’ll be able to see his grandma when we go back for the wedding!
Post # 9
Aw you can’t let things out of your control overshadow your day. Things out of your control may even happen on your day (someone had a stroke at ours) so you have to mentally prepare yourself for that. Your day will be awesome regardless!
Post # 10
Aw, I’m sorry. You are not selfish, you are just disappointed, and understandably so
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It’s normal to be disappointed just remember you are disappointed with the situations and not the people.
Focus on who will be at your wedding and I promise you will still have fun at your wedding.
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: Oh my goodness! I sure hope nothing like that happens, I hope everything turned out okay!
@beachbride1216: True. I am definitely not disapointed in them at all. They did nothing at all and have no control over the situation. I’m just sad that they may not make it. We will still be surrounded by family and friends and I know that even if they can’t make it that they will be thinking of us and I know that they want to be there!