- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
So here is a vent to you lovely ladies, if you have advise please share 🙂
This is kind of a follow-up to this thread http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-aunt-sucks#axzz2Vru6nJGs.
Basically my aunt tried to bring my 16 year old cousin and her friend to my 21st birthday party in Vegas. I was not happy about it but of course I was made out to be the bad guy because I would not change my plans to include a 16 year (we gambled, went clubbing and went to Chippendales, nothing a 16 year old could do, you know a normal 21st birthday in Vegas) Well she through her fit we said they could come but that we would not be changing our plans and would hang out with them when we could. Well it was all for nothing because they ended up getting a hospital bill in the mail from when my cousin was kicked by a horse, it was of course an expensive trip so they felt they could no longer afford it. I’ll admit, I did a happy dance and was thrilled!
Well ever since we got back all I have been hearing about how much fun Jamie would have had and it sucks she couldn’t go and she would have loved to see Chippendales (UMMM no 16 year old should see that show and she wouldn’t have been able to even get in). My grandmother of course had to tell me we should have just taken her and she has seen kids in Vegas before and poor Jamie always gets left out and on and on about poor Jamie didn’t get to go to Vegas. It’s really annoying, she doesn’t even want to hear about my trip just complain that Jamie didn’t get to go.
Then I tried to change the subject thinking I could talk to my grandma about something else going on in my life (I know dumb). I started telling her about some problems I’m having with a friend who I am now cutting out of my life, well of course Jamie is also having problems with her friends so she went on 30 minute rant about poor Jamie and her friends. Jamie’s own mother has even said that she has so many problems with her friends because she is a brat and is a downer. At that point I was just like “O let me go check on the food!)
Then she got mad at me because Jamie apparently is afraid to stay home alone and her parents were going to be gone until about 2 am for a party. So my grandma was going to stay with her and just stay the night but her dogs can’t be left home alone at night so I had to go stay with them. Normally not a problem but I had gotten in at 3 am that morning, had not been home and had not seen my FI and here she is wanting me to drive 30 minutes to her house and cancel all my plans. Like seriously?
Then of course she got mad at my mom because in a hallway with pictures of my sister and me there was one of my older cousin and sister but none of Jamie. They are all baby pictures of us under 3 of course Jamie wouldn’t be in them she wasn’t even thought of yet! None of my other cousins are up there but shame on us that Jamie be excluded again!
It sucks that Jamie is so much younger than all of us but at some point my grandma has to get over the fact that she cannot be included in everything we do. We should not be forced to do teenage appropriate things all the time; we are all over 21 and would like to act like it on occasion!
O that felt good lol. I promise I tried to keep it short… How do I deal with this without just not talking to my grandma completely?