- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
My husband and I both went to the same college for undergrad. We became really good friends with his roommate. My husband was accepted into medical school in the same town where his roommate wanted to go to graduate school. So seriously, the day BEFORE my husband and I travel 3 hours away to find an apartment in a crazy college town, our friend asks if we’d be interested in living together. I was torn, but eventually decided it would be for the best. We’d be able to get a much nicer apartment and not have to pay anymore since he’d be paying his share of the rent.
So we’ve been living together for a little over a month now. He just gets on my nerves so much. At first, it was dumb things that irritated me – like him being super psycho OCD over the kitchen counters and not wanting the dish soap out. According to him, I have to keep it in a cabinet. Not a big deal, but it’s really inconvenient since I’m the one that does all the dishes. Oh, but he says that he thinks that all chores should be shared equally in a household. He pretty much said those exact words when we first moved in together. Yet, as far as I’m aware, all he’s done is dishes a handful of times. He’s never dusted, swept, vacuumed, mopped, etc. It’s always me. I don’t care to clean up most of the messes after my husband – I married him and he’s in medical school, so it only seems fair that while I’m trying to find a job that I should be held responsible for most of the chores. But I didn’t marry our roommate, so I do think he should be considerate and actually help out with the cleaning.
He’s LOUD and inconsiderate at times when my husband and I are trying to sleep. He sits in the living room and watches TV blaring the freaking surround sound, all the while knowing that my husband has to be up bright and early to get to classes. He slams doors early in the morning when he leaves.
He showed concern in the beginning over how he was going to be able to stretch his money over the semester, although his parents still pay his car insurance for him. He always blows tons of money on high-end gadgets, ridiculously expensive (and unnecessary) stuff for the apartment, and everything has to be name brand. So I really don’t see how he’s concerned about his finances.
He’s also the most moody person I’ve ever met in my life. He’s all happy and smiles one minute, then he’s glaring and angry looking the next.
A lot of the problems I have with him are simply because my husband and I are married and just starting our life together. Our roommate is single and I guess he just sees grad school as an extension of undergrad – just another reason to party and consistently put off his schoolwork, then be in an extremely grouchy mood with us because he has so much to do for his classes. Oh, and he only has classes 3 times a week. And complains A LOT about them. My husband is in freaking medical school and has a lot more stress than our roommate. So I really could care less about how difficult it is for him to read his book or watch required movies to prepare for class.
I just needed to vent about it. My husband wants me to “play nice” and basically put up with it. My husband feels in the middle, so I try to be nice but sometimes I’d like to be mean and spiteful, haha. =)
Have any of you bees attemtped to live with your DH/SO AND another roommate? How did it work out for you? I just feel like I made a huge mistake agreeing to this….