Post # 1
As someone who has been on the Bee for 3 years, and has finally entered the last year of my waiting experience, it makes me sad to see that the updates to the Bee seem to have really hurt the waiting boards.
There isn’t a consistent waiting list each week anymore. It’s depressing not to have an easy, inspiring way to keep tabs on other waiting bees and get excited about moving up the list to your personal finish line. It seems like the Shut it Up pact is making a comeback finally. But honestly, I’m afraid that in a few months when I’m finally engaged, it won’t matter. I used to be on here every day. Now I log on once a week tops. I can’t be the only one. It feels like the excitement will be gone to announce my engagement, be removed from the list and begin using the Bee as a true planning tool.
It’s just not as fun and user friendly to be here anymore.
does anyone else share these fears?
Post # 2
imsandradee: things are getting back to normal. A lot of the glitches have been worked out and the hold functionality is coming back. Hang in there 🙂
ETA: I’m pretty sure the person who used to run the ‘waiting list’ recently got engaged, I’m not sure if anyone took over or not.
Post # 3
I agree with MsGinkgo: – things will defenitely work their way back to normal. The WB team behind the scenes is making pretty quick progress on fixing all the bugs in the system. Don’t stress, just give it a little while. A new world order will emerge!
Post # 4
imsandradee: You don’t think your engagment will “matter” because you can’t say you’re “off the list”? I think it might be a good time to take a break from the Bee if the only thing that makes your engagement “matter” is telling a bunch of strangers about it. Seriously- take a deep breath, log off and enjoy your life. I promise you telling your family and actual friends about it will be exciting even if there isn’t a “waiting list”.
Post # 5
“But honestly, I’m afraid that in a few months when I’m finally engaged, it won’t matter. It feels like the excitement will be gone to announce my engagement…”
I’m sorry, I don’t get this. Your engagement won’t matter to who? I agree that the updates to the site have overall been the suck, but being a part of the “waiting list” or any other part of this forum shouldn’t play a part in the excitement/interest of your future engagement.
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Post # 6
imsandradee: Agreed. Althought I am not waiting… I think the site is terrible now.
Post # 7
Wow haha sorry looks like people really misinterpreted my words and I can see why. My mistake in wording!! OBVIOUSLY my engagement will matter TREMENDOUSLY to me and those who are around me in real life. I just meant that with the decreased activity on the Bee I’ve experienced lately, I don’t know if I see myself doing those fun “Bee” milestones after my engagement (the proposal thread, ring pics, the waiting list, sharing my dress, getting planning tips and ideas)
thats all. Being off the Bee would have zero impact on my real personal life. I just won’t be sharing milestones like I expected with the virtual community ive come to love over the last three years.
Post # 8
MexiPino: when I said “won’t matter” I was talking about the fixes they’re doing to the site (like bringing back the pact). By the time all the old pieces I loved might come back, I might not use the new at all anymore. i barely log on anymore with all of those pieces gone for the last several weeks.
Post # 9
@imsandradee: You’ve probably been reading the boards and decided that you can’t wait to post your story on here too! I totally got what you meant. Apparently some people love to dissect everything and twist it as they like… Maybe they forget how anxious they were before the proposal too. I’ll be here cheering you on!!!!
Post # 10
I would hope that announcing your engagement and sharing those “milestones” would be infinitely more fun and satisfying with people you actually know and love in real life than strangers on the internet, no? Maybe just focus more on that? But then again I have never even started a thread myself at all so I just don’t understand this sentiment.
You can still do all those same threads as you go through your planning. I think they have a much broader appeal than waiting related threads and would still expect you to get responses.
Agree that the updates to the site were horribly misguided an I too visit a lot less frequently.
Post # 11
imsandradee: I uderstood what you meant 😛 . I thought it was “common knowledge” that clearly it would be exciting, but having been on a message board for 3 years and it all goes to sh*t before YOUR enagement would infuriating to me also! haha
Post # 12
imsandradee: I completely agree with you. I feel the same way. I used to log on all the time (I’ve been on the bee coming on 2 years now), and after the updates I don’t feel like even browsing the site to kill time. It’s just not fun anymore. And I feel like all the bees I used to follow stopped logging on as well, and more people who don’t “get” waiting are signing on. It feels like the site became much more planning oriented than waiting oriented. Maybe the planning is what the site was designed for initially, but I came to know and love it for the waiting community, and I just don’t get the same community feel of it anymore.
Post # 13
You could always volunteer to run the shut it up and waiting lists if it annoys you that much!
Post # 14
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imsandradee: Same! You’re not alone…number 7 here. I was excited to see what number I went down to after the clean up, and hopefully marking myself off the list this summer, now it’s just not as exciting (the weddingbee part, not the proposal/engagement part)! It’s just something fun and silly to look forward to, when you’ve been on a site for so long and wonder what number you’ll be at when you’re done waiting.
Post # 15
imsandradee: yes I can relate, the waiting list kept me sane! My Mondays feel sad without it…. There is a lady that’s taken it over, but she’s in the process of working it all out. But I think (new layout permitting) it will be revived soon