(I'm afraid to ask) Is this too tacky to do?? Thoughts??

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Personally I wouldn’t have a problem with it, although (unlike a website) you may find that not all guests are able to access it. So I wouldn’t rely on it as a sole information/photo disseminator or some people could get cranky.

Post # 3
5968 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017


BurlapnLace:  I dont’ think a private FB group is any different than a wedding website. I would go ahead and do it. I wouldnt’ think anything of it if I was added to such a group. The only thing I can see being a problem is if all of your guests don’t have facebook. but that would apply even to a wedding website if some older friends or relatives didn’t use the internet often.

Post # 4
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My cousin did this, but she’s 18. I don’t think it’s a crazy idea, as long as they can turn off notifications and not get bombarded with notifications everytime someone does something. I think a website would have been a better way to go personally, but I don’t see anything wrong with the group. Oh and as long as it’s totally private, as in noone else can see, find or join it. 

Post # 5
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

a wedding website is basically just that… a page dedicated to your wedding info so that people can look and find out the answers to these questions. With the templates that are online you can set one up in about an hour. You don’t have to have all those “how we met” and “meet the bridal party” stuff which are what takes the most time. Instead of spending the time answering everyone’s question one by one just put all the info on a site and then you can just send the link


I had friends use a private facebook event page but not everyone is on facebook so it might only work for some people and if I was going to spend the time I would prefer it was accessable by everyone going to the wedding


I don’t think it is the worst most tacky thing but its definitely more suited to casual back yard bbq type weddings than a formal event (IMO)

Post # 6
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Normally, I would say don’t do it, just make a free wedding website real quick. But, if everyone is already bombarding you with questions via social media, then it seems like they are fine with getting the info off of there anyway. Even if you were to make a website, I’m sure you would have to use something to get word out that it exists aside from word-of-mouth. Do what you feel comfortable with. I would find it a little tacky if someone decided to use social media in lieu of invites, etc, but not if they had already sent out formal invites and did not have a wedding website. Or, you could do what my cousin did. Create your website with all the info people are requesting and send a massive message on social media with the link to it. Good luck!

Post # 7
7915 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would find that really annoying, invasive, and awkward. Everyone will get all these notifications anytime someone posts, it shows you who’s seen what post, private comments will be public… It’s just.. get your wedding off of my FB. 

You say the website wasn’t neccessary… But i don’t think that’s the case if people are confused about logistics and attire. Just make a website. Lots are free. In the time you spend on the bee in a day you could have one. It’s an annoyance to you which spares annoyance for your guests which is what being a good host is all about.

Post # 8
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your idea seeing as invites have gone out so you can’t really mention the wedding website (alternatively you can fb msg all those people a wedding website URL though?).

Just please don’t send fb msgs in any manner for RSVP reminders!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 9
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should just bite the bullet and create a website.

ps  There is no pleasant or polite way to “remind” people about RSVP’s. You will have to wait until after the due date, then contact the non-responders like all other brides.

Post # 10
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it would be fine. It’s not thaat different than a weddding website. Though it might be more difficult to get the answers people ae looking for in a facebook page, as opposed to a regular wedding website. Honestlt, there are plenty of free and easy websites tht you could set up in a couple hours – that’s what we did and it worked great. And then it’s easy to find all the info your guets might need.

Post # 11
262 posts
Helper bee

i’m not even a fan of the website, the how we met part is redundant to the people you’re inviting, everyone has gps and doesnt need directions etc.  but its more “legit”

 facebook is for social networking and annoying links being shared.  don’t jump that shark.  


to add a laugh..


Post # 12
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think a wedding website is a better way of going about information because a private FB group might get annoying with notifications. Not sure if there is a way to modify that, but I know I get annoyed when I reply once of a post, and then I get notification that Sally Johnson replied and then Joe Dirt replied. It gets annoying.

I think doing a website will give everyone basic information, and from there, guests can contact each other for any outstanding information. You can even add on there who to direct questions regarding rooms, venue, food, etc to if you want.

Just as a side note regard wedding pictures. Wedpics is a free app on your phone where you can take pics and post them to an account for you and your FI’s wedding. I have used it at several weddings the past year, and it is fantastic. Maybe you could try that for your guest photos.

Post # 13
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

andixlyn:  omg i love that meme!! hahahh

would have been perfect for my cousins wedding reception invite on facebook titled “lets get crunk”

Post # 14
805 posts
Busy bee

People can turn off notifications on fb so if that’s how people have been contacting you then that would be fine I imagine.

Post # 15
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

it took me 30 mins tops to put all the necessary info into a weddingwire.com (free!) site. i then spent another hour adding extras, photos etc. but you wouldn’t need to. 

i would do that, and then post the link/send the link to people. 

i HATE being added to groups like that, i get a million notifications and i don’t actually want to be included in a long thread between your aunt alice and your bridesmaids who are concerned about footwear. 

just make a free bare bones website and be done with it!

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