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I am allergic to wheat also, but that isn't going to stop me from eating some of my cake. I get stuffed up and my throat gets a little tight, but I am willing to risk it :-)
I'm allergic to gluten and couldn't change the cake because we had a DW and it would have been too complicated.
So I cut the cake, did all the pics, had a little icing... and then when everyone was served their plate, I had a fruit platter for myself. People know that I couldn't eat it the the "obvious" factor was really not a big deal; and if you have a bigger wedding (we were only 16), people will likely not even notice.
A cupcake is a really good idea - better be different than sick on your wedding day!
Some people have suggested to me that I have only one tier of the cake made gluten free.. we opted against that because as I said, impossible for us, but it was a good idea as well, if you have some time to modify your order.
Now that gluten allergies are becoming so popular right now, there might be some bakeries or grocery stores that have gluten-free cakes and desserts. Maybe you could get a small gluten-free cake decorated similiarly to your wedding cake, and that can be the cake you and your fiance cut together.
Maybe you could start out by asking your baker if they do gluten-free cakes, and if not, check out local organic grocery store or a grocery store with more options than the typical grocery store. Around here we have Trader Joe's, Whole Foods and Wegman's, all which might have something gluten-free. Not sure what there is in NE, but I'm sure there's something. Or, just google gluten-free bakery in your area. I know in NYC, there's a bakery committed to using gluten-free, dairy-free, egg-free and soy-free treats! http://www.babycakesnyc.com/
My cousin is allergic to wheat too and at her wedding she had the top layer of the wedding cake be gluten-free. I would contact your baker and see if they can make the top tier gluten-free or else make a small side cake (big enough for just a few people) that is gluten-free. You also do not have to eat the parts that you cut necessarily. My cousin cut the main cake as part of the cake-cutting ceremony but she actually ate out of the gluten-free part. I can't say that I noticed she did anything special (from a guest's point of view), so I am sure it will work out!
I kind of feel your pain. My mom is allergic to chocolate (terrible, I know) and my sister is allergic to gluten so we've had to really get creative with our menu. For our cake we're actually having a fake (styrofoam) cake except for the top, anniversary layer and a cut out portion for us to cut and eat during the reception. The guests will all be served sheet cakes. We did this because it's easier for our cake servers and since our cake with be smack in the center of the room and a HUGE focal point I don't want it all dismembered and destroyed half way through.
Would it be possible for you to do something similar and your cut out portion could be something wheat free? Surely your FI can handle eating one little piece when you feed each other and then have a piece of the real deal later?
My stomach cramps and swells with wheat, which will look awful in a wedding dress and honeymoon bikini, so I don't want anything to do with it on our day! :D
I love the idea of cutting the regular cake, nibbling some icing and eating my own thing later. While some people will know my deal, I don't want to have to explain myself to everyone at the wedding. I'll definitely have to call my baker and ask her if she's done a gluten-free cake before.... a quick google search shows no special bakeries in Nebraska (no surprise) but maybe someone will be able to.
And yes, eeh, FI may just have to deal with it for a minute - I have to deal with it every day! Or we can cut some and I'll eat out of mine - I'm glad you didn't notice at that wedding, chelsea, it gives me hope!
The cupcake is a cute idea, but something to consider is how allergic to gluten are you? FI just gets a few tummy rumbles that a pepto bismo solves if he eats gluten so he will be having some of our cake. Whatever you do it will be perfect!
Is there some other type of dessert you can feed each other that doesn't interfere with your allergy? That way, your Fh and your guests can still have the cake or else you can skip the cake and serve the other dessert to everyone instead.
I ike the cupcake idea. What about a slice of flourless chocolate cake? I bet there is a bakery near you that has options so you could indulge in something delicious that won't make you sick.
@ebs1123, So sorry to hear that! Have you been diagnosed with Celiacs? I know I post this alot on here but it truly is my favorite nutrition/exercise/recipe website....
This is how FI and I eat all the time so its easy to maintain and non gluten intolerant people love it too!
Timeout!
Are you allergic to wheat or do you have Celiac's? B/c they're two different things and I've seen both talked about.
If you have a wheat allergy, then you experience an immunologic (allergic) rxn... like hives, trouble breathing... etc. to some degree. Celiac's (more of an autoimmune disease) usually only experience gastrointestinal discomfort, if anything at all, with small quantities of wheat. Therefore, Celiac's (the gluten free diets) can eat wheat, but may be quite uncomfy 3-4 hours later (though not recommended b/c it may eventually will ruin your intestineal lining - leading to malabsoption). In the case of Celiac's, one little slice won't be a big deal. In the case of wheat allergy, is it really worth the risk to not have your own cupcake? Stress/activity can increase the risk of increased allergic rxns. GL!
(My guess is you have Celiac's b/c sometimes people never even get diagnosed for their entire life... a wheat allergy would have more likely popped up when in childhood)
I'm gluten intolerant and have been completely gluten free for a year and a half. I guess it depends on the severity of your symptoms, but personally I wouldn't risk it on my wedding day. Some people with gluten intolerance or Celiac Disease are extremely sensitive to cross-contamination, so even nibbling icing wouldn't be an option since it touches the cake. Luckily, I am not that sensitive, but I have had a handful of incidents where I've been glutened (accidentally) by even a small amount of flour or wheat-containing ingredient. I got pretty sick on these occasions and definitely wouldn't want to feel that way on the big day. Once you restrict gluten from your diet you may find that you are more sensitive to it when you do encounter it.
As far as the cake goes, I think those are some good alternative suggestions. I haven't decided what I'm doing yet, but we will probably do a small cake for me and the husband or a gluten free tier on a fake cake and serve everyone else sheet cake. Do keep in mind though that a bakery that specializes in regular baked goods may not have experience or may not be willing to work with GF cakes. GF baked goods can be a little challenging because they tend to be super thick and dense.
Non-wedding wise, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I know it can be overwhelming and scary, but it gets so much better with time. Hang in there! And give a holler if you need support!
@mandalee, it's actually a wheat allergy or gluten intolerance, not Celiac. And I was always a sick kid, we just never figured it out. We're actually still in the midst of figuring out how much it takes for my nasty reaction, so maybe the icing will be ok, maybe not :/
@rileyjane and @emily, thanks for the support! It's definitely overwhelming, but the last month without wheat was so much happier that I'm willing to work through it!
I think my new plan is to talk to my baker and see if she's able to deal with this and, if not, to find/make something small that I can eat day of. If a small amount won't throw me (in the midst of figuring out), I'll take a small bite, but not worry toooo much about being obvious if I can't handle it. Thanks, ladies, for the reassurance!
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Just this week, I've discovered that I'm allergic to wheat. As in, flour. We've already booked and tasted what will be an amazing cake, but now I don't think I'll be able to eat it :( I'm not going to force the whole wedding to eat my wheat-free version of cake, but what should I do for my own piece? And for the cake cutting? FI is kind of upset that I won't be eating our wedding cake, and I want to have something we can do for the cutting without getting me ill!
i'm thinking about getting a wheat-free cupcake for me, but would that be really weird and obvious? Do you have any better ideas, hive? Please help!