(Closed) I’m always b!tching about my friends…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m gonna play devils advocate and give you the other side….

I do think you are overreacting a bit – if I had a fight w/ my friend & didn’t talk to her for over a month, I would prob of asked in the same manner.

Think, if she would of sent an invitation, and you were not to respond, she wouldn’t know if this was b/c you didn’t receive/ see it? or it would be up to you to call or text first. Its kind of a loose end.

She didn’t want to call you, b/c again, kind of awkward.

So text allowed her to get a live response in the most unconfrontional way, and she prob said “its up to you” b/c she didn’t want to put the pressure on you to come, since she knows late invitations upset you.

Post # 4
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The only thing I’m gonna say is don’t take your anger and annoyance of the MOTHER’S actions out on the KID.  

The son certainly couldn’t send you an invite or call himself (unless he’s around 9 or older and even then he might not have your number).  So how is HE responsible for his mom waiting so long to invite you?  

It’s possible HE asked his mother if his Auntie and Uncle were coming and she had no choice but to send the late invite.  

Either way, you can always try to use this as a way to mend bridges, if for no other reason than the child’s sake.  

 

Post # 5
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I would look at this as her extending the olive branch. She may have debated whether she wanted to invite you or if she did invite you would you turn it down and then she would feel horrible.  She probably worked up the courage to invite you at all. 

Life is last minute, its not always planned and last minute invitations happen. Try to be happy to be invited at all. She could still be mad and not have invted you at all. Would you have prefered that?

 

Post # 8
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think she is trying to make piece by inviting you but felt too awkward and to call. I would text back and say “I’ll see if I can stop by” and leave it open ended

Post # 9
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4824 posts
Honey bee

@Ryansgirl: But she knows you are “stubborn” right? Maybe she was afraid you wouldnt forgive her or were mad at her in return?  That takes courage to overcome those fears if she had them.  

Post # 10
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Mountain out of molehill.

Was she the very definition of decorum?  No.  Is this really worth the righteous indignation?  No.

Go to the party.  Make peace with your friend.  Etc.

Post # 11
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ryansgirl: You didn’t say you were going, you said you would just drop by and say hi, so her son only gets to see you for a short amount of time because you’re pissed at his mom. I’m sorry but I do think you’re overreacting a bit, I have lots of friends and family that would communicate the party this way.

Post # 13
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Ryansgirl: Well you didn’t explain the gymnastics part before, so there was no way I could of known that. And yes, in most people’s eyes there is a difference between going and dropping by to say hi.

 

I realize you came here looking for people to agree with you, but unfortunately most of us don’t. If you really don’t want opinions and just want to hear that you’re right no matter what, posting the situation on a message board and asking for opinions isn’t the greatest idea, it’s pretty rare for everyone to agree with you. You obviously feel strongly about this, because you’re being quite defensive, but I would maybe try to ease up a bit and consider what the posters here are saying.

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