Post # 1
A little backstory: My friend from childhood is getting married this Saturday the 12th and it also happens to be my birthday ! After her bridal shower, she fired her Maid/Matron of Honor because they both weren’t happy with the arrangement. Her backup? Me! I was very happy to accept. I live about 500 miles from her and went to a bit of trouble to be at her bachelorette party that she planned for herself (this was before the Maid/Matron of Honor torch was passed to me).She hasn’t been a bridezilla at all and was very happy that I was there for her.
Because of circumstances and last-minute-ness I haven’t performed the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor duties but I really wanna come through for her on her wedding weekend and that is wherre I need help.
Now, other than fluffing up her dress,doing makeup touches as neeed giving an awesome speech at the reception, I don’t know what else I’m responsible for!
For example: Should I bring champagne for us before the ceremony? There aren’t any other bm’s so it’d just be her and I unless the moms want to parttake.
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
I’d LOVE if my Maid/Matron of Honor brought us champagne before the ceremony. Such a sweet touch. You could also plan to bring along a clutch with her things (cell, money, lipstick and out makeup essentials). Also, be prepared to possibly take over roles, like rangling family members for pictures, ushering guests, coordinating with groomsmen/groom, etc. If she’s a big planner, she probably has a timeline. Ask her for a copy so that you know where everyone is supposed to be adn when.
Post # 4
My MOH’s main job, besides all the stuff you mentioned, is to keep me calm and happy 🙂 So make sure you watch the bride’s mood, and if she starts freaking out or getting worked up about something, deflect and crack a joke or something!!! (haha we have florist drama that has been now dubbed “flowergate” and I specifically told my Maid/Matron of Honor to “keep me away from the flowers. Don’t let me get worked up about the flowers. Tell me the flowers are lovely and were worth every cent. Even though I told you to say it, I will still appreciate it!”)
Post # 5
@missjuli: I actually had my two maid of honors drop out, and one of my closest friends stepped in as Maid/Matron of Honor at about month to go. I think it’s so great to hear how supportive and excited you are for your friend. As someone who has been there before, I’m sure that means the world to her!
Champagne before the wedding is a great idea. It will help to calm her nerves. I’d say the biggest help is just to be supportive all day. Make sure she has extra makeup or any other essentials she may need. People get crazy the day of the wedding sometimes, so be sure to help her wrangle in a lose groomsman or missing grandparent.
Post # 6
Thanks! It’s good to know I don’t have to do other expensive things. I can swing a bottle of champagne no problem. But I was a little leery about some forums that were saying I have to cover the cost of her hair for the day, purchase the garters, etc.