- 6 years ago
Hello ladies. I’m a guy and I need to get women’s views on my situation. I have already gotten my two best buddies’ advice.
So here is my story: A little over a year ago I met Sally (I have changed her name obviously). She and I got along from the get go and we became a couple really quickly. She’s attractive, sexy, bubbly, happy, intelligent. I was looking for a long term relationship and she “happened.” Within eight months I proposed to her while we took a holiday together. She accepted and we both looked forward to a great future together. I wanted to settle down with the right girl and thought she was the one for me.
This past Monday I got together with my college roommate from a few years ago. We were best buds in college and have always stayed in touch even though we now live in different cities. He is in town and we hadn’t seen each other in a couple of years so we both wanted to drink, party and catch up. Near the end of the night I called Sally to come pick me up from the bar where we were ending the night. I wasn’t drunk but I didn’t want to drive. When she texted me that she was there I texted her to come in and meet my friend. She came in and I introduced them. We all had a drink and made small talk but I felt some tension. We went home.
Yesterday, my buddy called me up and said let’s meet up. We did. He asked me about Sally and how and when we met. He got uncomfortable looking. When I asked him what’s up, and told me that last year for about a week he “dated” Sally. At that point I got really uncomfortable. The timeline was right. Sally had gone out to her parents’ city to visit them about a month or so after we met. That city is where my college buddy lives.
I told my buddy that if he was shitting me, he wasn’t being funny. He got quite serious and said no he was not shitting me. He took out his cell and showed me a pic. It was Sally sitting on his lap – all smiles and nude. He basically told me that they met in a bar and flirted and then left together. He thinks they had sex three times that week. He also said it didn’t end well later that week.
So here I am, livid. From the day we met, Sally presented herself to me as a demure, responsible woman – and I bought it. The facts fly in the face of that picture that she so cleverly painted. Furthermore, she hooked up with my buddy AFTER we started seeing each other.
Sally has not said anything to me about my friend since she met him on Monday and I have not brought anything up either.
The one guy I have confided in (he’s my best friend) says she has misrepresented (and worse) and that I should walk. My college roommate agrees and says she was a typical party girl when he met her. He says she did not mention to him that she had a boyfriend back home.
I really would like a woman’s view on all this before I go ballistic. What would you suggest I do?