Post # 1
So, this has been irritating me for a few days, and I just need to get it off my chest.
I’ll be 37 weeks on Friday and at my weekly check up last week, the dr said she can come “any day now!” He also said a few weeks ago, that the closer I get to my EDD, the closer I need to stay to home, I’m already about 30 minutes from the hospital.
So, MIL wants to have DH and I over for supper and has been talking about doing this for about 2 months now. She finally said that this Thursday is the best day. MIL lives about 30 minutes from us, so going to her house puts me at an hour away from the hospital, and dr doesn’t want me that far away. So, DH knows that I shouldn’t be that far from the hospital, but he keeps telling me that MIL wants us over for supper and wants to see me. I’ve told him that because the dr said “any day” and doesn’t want me far from the hospital, I don’t feel comfortable going. He keeps pushing me and saying that we need to go, so I told him that he can go and I’ll stay home. He said no, MIL wants both of us there.
So, what’s bothering me is, DH isn’t being supportive of me and what my dr said and neither is MIL. Now, I don’t know if DH told MIL any of this, but it’s irritating enough that he isn’t telling his mom that I shouldn’t be that far.
I should add that I hardly slept last night and I’m tired and crabby (you understand, right?) but this is really making me mad!
So, what’s bothering you today?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
That would make me angry too! I can’t believe your DH is not getting the point!
What’s making me angry today? While we work to reduce our debt, unexpected bills coming up at the same time has caused me to to dip heavily into our savings to meet our obligations. I am more upset than anything, but still. Boo.
Post # 4
Yeah, just call him out on not being “fatherly” in his decision-making. And threaten to give birth on the dinner table if he insists.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
That sucks :/ Can she come over to your place instead?
What’s pissing me off are the Republicans in Congress. Cool, just go ahead and torpedo the government and the world economy because you are in the minority and didn’t get your way, no big deal.
Post # 7
@Fall_In_Love22: Perhaps your MIL wants to squeeze in this dinner before you deliver as it likely won’t happen for some time after the baby arrives.
Is this a high risk pregnancy? If not, you can always head home if you show any signs that labor is iminent.
Did you ask your doctor to clarify what he meant by “stay closer to home”? Sometimes doctors make these general statements but assume you know what they mean. Perhaps he meant no holidays, vacations, long trips?
Chances are, if this is your first pregnancy and not high risk, your labor is going to be a heck of a lot longer than one hour start to finish.
Post # 8
@LMD: I hear ya there!
@oldmatron: lol Not a bad idea! Who wants placenta for supper!?!
Post # 9
I’d suggest they come to you for dinner instead. Make MIL cook though still! 😉
Post # 10
@Fall_In_Love22: placenta for supper! Too funny 🙂
Post # 11
@julies1949: He doesn’t want me an hour or more away. From what he’s said, it’s because my mom and grandma (mom’s mom) and my mom’s sister all have had really short labors. Between them, the longest labor was 3 hours. So, just incase I turn out to be the same, he wants me close by.
Post # 12
@Fall_In_Love22: I’d ask her to bring dinner to YOU. Why can’t she come over, knowing your situation, and cook there? I wouldn’t go either if I were in your situation. I tend to listen to my doctor even if other’s are like, “Meh it’s fine.” And your husband should be more supportive. Seriously.
I’m mad (well, not really mad) because I am 14 weeks, and I am finding out all these shots I have to get while pregnant. I HATE shots. I just got over my fear of getting blood drawn and now I need a flu shot for the first time in my life. Poop.
Post # 13
I second some of the above comments, have her come to you for dinner if she wants you both there so badly.
I’m mad because I have a sucky travel agent, I’ve been waiting a whole week (which really isn’t that long I guess) For her to get back to me! I just don’t ability to wait nicely ):
Post # 14
@Theonetime that’s a long time to wait for a professional to respond!
Post # 15
@Fall_In_Love22: Its a nice gesture that MIL wants to have you two over for dinner. Is there any chance you could meet at a restaurant half way between your two homes (keeping you w/in the 1 hour range of home/hospital?) Or what others said having her to your house and her still cooking. There is a comprimise to be had and DH needs to support you because you and baby come first. Are you comfortable having the conversation with MIL or shooting her a quick email if DH isn’t effectively communicating with his mom?
I’m having a real first world problem today, my house cleaners said they’d be here between 8:30-9am… it’s now 11am. I’m annoyed that they aren’t here. (This is only my 3rd time using them so I’m not comfortable giving them a house key so here I sit and wait… and their tardiness is really getting in the way of me napping.) Ha!
Post # 16
@Fall_In_Love22: I’d probably Google stories about people going into labor being too far away!!!!