Post # 1
I decided to have a long engagement, wayyy before we had even decided to get married. So of course when the ring came I picked a date that was a good ways away..
Now I’m completely regretting it.. I don’t know what to do. I haven’t really gotten anything done. I feel like I was before we were engaged, just looking at nice pictures and not really planning a wedding. I’ve looked at a few venues, I’ve looked at dresses but other that and I have my photographer booked. Other than that.. I’m at a stand still. I feel like my mom doesn’t really care, every time I bring up anything wedding “oh yeah, that’ll be nice”. I asked her to call the venue I wanted to look at, “okay, I’ll get to it later..”, I asked her about putting the down payment on my dress (I know I’m early on buying the dress but I’m begging everyone not to comment on that) she said “well I have to talk to your dad” (she’s never asked my dad permission for anything).
I just feel like A) no one cares about the wedding or is taking me seriously B) I have nothing to do..
Any words of wisdom?
Post # 3
It’s possible that your mom is not wanting to make any decisions because it’s so far off. She may be scared of wanting something different in a year. I dunno, I never had that much time to plan (6 months). So it’s hard for me to know what family’s reactions may be for a long engagement. If I were you, I would just take it slow. Talk to your mom and ask her why she’s acting like the wedding isn’t a big deal. Maybe she’ll tell you something surprising, or maybe she’ll adjust her attitude when she realizes what she’s doing.
Post # 4
Ive been planning my wedding for about 9 months and I am still getting that reaction from my mom & family. No one is really interested in wedding talk or planning. But I thinks that just my mom and families personality, They arent really organized and leave things to the last minute. They dont understand how much planning goes into a wedding. Therefore they think a month will be plenty of time to help with my wedding. I know that when it comes down to crunch time they will be there for me. But right now I bascially doing all of my planning by myself.
Is your mom a procrastinator? Maybe she thinks there plenty of time to put a deposit down on the dress or look at venues.
Post # 5
Well amazingly, I just got off the phone with my mom and she was talking about putting a good chunk of change away for the wedding. And last night she came up with a really good idea for the reception. So, idk what changed her but I’m thankful!
And yes, she’s a horrible procrastinator.
Post # 6
Yes, I’m not alone in feeling this way!!! FI and I are having a 22 month engagement and I HATE IT! I have days when I seriously feel like it is never going to happen! Fortunitely my Mom does sound excited about the wedding and we often talk about it, but whenever I talk to the future inlaws about it, it feels like I am just “playing” and they don’t take me seriously. There are other girls who are having long engagments on here but it seems like it doesn’t phase them at all, that waiting is not a problem. I’m jealous of those girls.
Post # 7
Do you have to have a long engagement? Because yes things will seem abit slow until u get closer to the date. You may also change you mind alot in that time.
Post # 8
I wouldnt worry about that. Start doing things for yourself. Don’t depend on others to call venues. make appointments with vendors: venue, cake, dress, dj, etc and invite your Mom so she has a choice. once you get the ball rolling, it will come together better.