(Closed) I’m at my wits end

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Maybe you should just take your dress and have it fitted somewhere else?  I have never heard that before about only doing fittings once a week, but if its a busy shop, they probably just want to leave saturdays open for new business.  Everything seems ridiculous the closer you get….just don’t worry about the little things.  Leave the shower up to the people in charge.  And get your trial appointment!  Ask to speak with someone else if this girl can’t book an appointment.

Post # 4
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378 posts
Helper bee

No worries, we’ve all been there. Just take a deep breath.

I also didn’t want a bridal shower but gave in to my mom and am now driving 12 hours to the midwest for it next weekend. I know a lot of the people going are very excited for it, and excited for me, so that’s why I did it. Just remember that people WANT to give you things. it makes them feel happy, and weddings should be a happy time. Yes, it’s probably not fun that your mom is disorganized, but she’s probably been this way her entire life, so it shouldn’t be something new to you. 

The next time you call and do the hair stuff, ask to speak to one of the owners and managers. *Calmly* explain to her that you would love to have your hair done at their salon the day of the wedding, but that when you called and spoke to someone before, they weren’t the sharpest tool in the shed and that worries you. Any owner of any business isn’t going to like that their first point of contact (i.e. receptionist) is rude and dumb – that puts a bad light on their business.

The dress thing isn’t fun either, but can you have it bustled where you live? Find a local seamstress and just get it done where you are, that way if indeed they only do fittings on Tuesdays (my shop was Wednesdays), then it’s easier for you. That also allows your girls to come with and learn how to do the bustle without having the hastle of trying to get them to wherever you bought the dress to learn, because it doesn’t sound close to where you are. Just find a local seamstress and I’m sure they would be more than happy to help you out. And the "too early" thing is crap. I was told that too and said "well that’s nice, but I’d like to get it done." Which turned out lucky for me because they messed up the bustle twice and it took a month longer than expected. 

Planning "the happiest day of your life" can be stressful and hectic, but just step back and remember WHY you’re doing it. You’re getting married to the person of your dreams. That makes dealing with idiots all that much easier. And if they’re that rude, don’t give them your services and go somewhere else! 🙂 Good luck! 

Post # 5
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177 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve never heard a good thing about a bridal salon in the Albany area. I’d see if another Boston shop will help you with your dress (They might not if you didn’t buy through them) and rescue it. 

Post # 6
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2293 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would definately take the dress and have the work done elsewhere.  It’s kind of ridiculous that they only do fittings on a specific day – and it sounds like now they have your money they’re not that concerned about service.  My salon does fittings any day they are open, the only thing being that you have to make an appt at least a week ahead so that they can make sure the tailor is there.  Even with that, after my first fitting I wanted to stop out and try the dress again with a different bra, and they said they weren’t busy that afternoon if I didn’t mind that the tailor would be helping someone else at the same time.  They are just as nice now that I’ve paid them as they ever were, which is how it should be.

However – everything else in my life seems totally out of control, so I understand how you’re feeling.  Even though things are actually coming together well, with 31 days left there are enough important things left to do that I’m feeling really overwhelmed.  Just remember to breathe.  Some really nice bath salts and an aromatherapy candle can help too.  Maybe a glass of wine.  Heck, I think I should take the afternoon off and hide in my bathtub.

Post # 8
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293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

You dont need a bridal shop to do the alterations!  Look for a decent seamstress ANYWHERE, They probably only schedule their person to do "fittings" once a week and she sews the rest of the time, which means they are marking up her work!  Have a glass of champagne, as a stress releiver I took my own camera to my shower and snapped pictures of everyone!

Post # 9
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378 posts
Helper bee

If you can’t get the dress place to do any of the alterations on another day, see if they’ll give you like $200 back for alterations somewhere else? That way you won’t feel like you’re wasting money. It sounds like the owner is cool, maybe they’ll do that to help you out.

Post # 10
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Oh hun, I am right there with you! Things liek this keep heappening to me! I wish I had some wonderful advice but I don’t think that anything  can say will help much. Just hang in there, it will all pass and just remember whats going be to at the  end of this road! YOUR WEDDING 😉 And no matter what it takes to get there, it’s going to be beautiful and everything you dreamed!

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