Post # 1
I’m seriously awkward, especially when it comes to social situations and i get nervous and do weird things. So usually in social situations I say the same 3 things and ask the same three questions. So with that being said, can someone give me an idea of what is appropriate to be said and appropriate actions when receiving gifts, and for greeting people I don’t see very often? What types of things can I ask.
Totally embarrassed that i have to ask this but I don’t want to embarrass myself at my shower!
Post # 2
alysee: How nice to see you again.
Are you having a good summer?
I see you don’t have a drink. Can I get you a glass of punch?
Have you seen ___ (so and so)? She was just saying that she is looking forward to seeing you.
Thanks for the ___ . I know ___ will love it.
Thanks for the ____. I’ve been wanting to ___ and now I can because I have your ___.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
alysee: Basic small talk … weather, how’s the job, new haircut/glasses/whatever are really nice, so excited to see you, that’s such a nice [piece of clothing] where did you get it from, etc.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2015 - The Biltmore Ballrooms
^^ everything above. Being awkward is AWESOME by the way.
Thank folks for coming. Let them know how excited you are to be marrying your partner. Give hugs and ask how folks are doing.
You’ll do fine! Congrats!
Post # 5
I was the same way! My shower was attended by mostly only my FMIL’s friend, who I’d never met before. It was also supposed to be a surprise which my FI thankfully prepared me for. I was so afraid as I’m so socially awkward and wasn’t sure how to react.
I said a lot of:
“It’s so nice to [meet/see] you, thank you so much for coming!”
“I’m so happy you could be here.”
“This [party/gift/favour/food] is so lovely, wow.”
“Thank you so much [for this gift], it’s going to be perfect in our [___room].”
I also tried to tell silly little stories to show my appreciate. For example, my husband had a 1980’s toaster from his university days, and I thank the woman who bought the toaster off our registry by telling her that now I wouldn’t have to worry about husband burning the house down at breakfast. If all else fails, just smile and nod along.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies for these great suggestions! I will definitely be using them!
Post # 7
Who else will be there with you? Mum, sister, aunt, friend? I suggest standing in one place at the beginning, near the door so that you can great people as they come in (saying things that other Bees suggested) and your helper can take the gift and card and put it in the right spot, then usher the guest inside and get them a drink as you greet the next person. If you just focus on saying hello and small chat it can cut down on the awkward I need to take the gift and put it down and talk and get me a drink and here comes another person and and and,…!!!! let your helper usher people away, do all the fluffing around etc. they can also of course join in the conversation if they see you needing some help.
Then as the party starts in full, after most have arrived, you can grab a drink and some food and have some more meaningful conversation. It is your bridal shower, perhaps you can ask the long term relationship women what their tips/advice is, talk to your single friends about how much you are looking forward to seeing them dance at the wedding.
I’m sure that you’ll have a good time. Have fun!
Post # 8
OH my. I’m awkward too! I hated that part of my bridal shower specifically because I was a ball of nerves.
First off I took advantage of the free mimosas. Lots of them. Then I made a point to greet everyone and get a picture with the table, that helped break the ice. when it came to opening gifts I would hold them up high, smile and say thank you X! And make up some dumb quirky comment. Then smiled again and looked excited to use it.
you’ll do fine. Being awkward is cool 😛
Post # 9
alysee: the best way to get through small talk is to ask about the other person. people love to talk about themselves.
the gift part is awkward for 100% of us- just thanks I love it etc.
Post # 10
I’m the opposite and am confident in social situations, however I have many friends like you who are awkward and I love it. I think it often makes for a more endearing person and can make me more interested in the person in a curious way. I worry that I say too much and am over the top or false!
Anyway with regard to things to talk about here are a few suggestions:
– “It’s so nice to see you, I’m really glad you made it”
– “I really like your dress / new hairstyle” (compliment something you genuinely like, it can be a good conversation starter)
– “How was your holiday?” or “Do you have any holidays planned?”
– “How is your Mum/Partner/Daughter/Pet doing?”
– “Are you exciting about your wedding, where are you with planning?” (for any other engaged guests)
Any of these should start a conversation, and to make it continue keep asking extra questions relating to the response you get. and of course if someone asks you something that you can ask them back – do ask them back!
In terms of receiving gifts this is awkward for everyone in my opinion. Just try to sound sincere even if you dont feel it and keep it simple “It is lovely, thank you so much!”. And if you can try to say how you would make use of the gift, for example if it were a dress “Oh its lovely, it will be perfect for my holiday” or if it were a picture frame “That will look great in my lounge and I can use it to frame that cute photo of my cat” etc.
I hope this helped and try not to worry too much just enjoy xxx
Post # 11
alysee: Ask people questions about their lives, give genuine compliments, share that you’re excited to see them today/at the wedding, or that it’s been too long since you saw them last, give genuine thanks for their attendance at the shower (a heartfelt, ‘Thank you for coming, its been too long since we caught up.”) As far as the gifts go, its super awkward. Simple, hold it up, thank the person who gave it to you directly, in front of everyone “Thank you, Auntie Sue!” and if you can think of something else, go for it (ie: This blue is the colour we’re doing throughout the kitchen! This will work perfectly. Or “Fiance’s name will love to get his hands on this cast iron pan for his whatever.” But don’t feel like you need to do it for every gift. I think the key is to keep everything genuine to who you are.)
And enjoy yourself. 🙂 I hope its a fabulous party.