I'm being a brat and I know it

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you buy it in store you can take it home that day. You can even just take it and wait for it to be resized until you get home. 

Post # 3
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

netto614:  basically the same thing happened to me. He said he may propose on our cruise in march- the ring didn’t pan out. He proposed in May! The proposal rocked and the cruise rocked. He told me beforehand that the proposal wouldn’t happen so I didn’t spend the whole vacation expecting it and just happily read books and went kayaking and drank blender drinks. If it isn’t coming it isn’t coming, enjoy your relaxing vacation- it will be soon! 

Post # 6
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I know this idea is not for everyone but what about a proposal without a ring? Or a proposal with a simpler ring and getting your e-ring later? Don’t feel like a brat I can totally relate! I’d be disapointed too, especially after all the anticipation! I’m sure whatever happens he’ll find a way to make it special and you guys will have a great trip regardless. 


Post # 7
423 posts
Helper bee

He could be teasing you in order to make it a surprise. BN does overnight shipping. I’m sure a lot of other places do too.

Post # 8
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

netto614:  I absolutely think a ringless proposal can be perfect – I’m engaged, and I still don’t have my ering ;). (It’s coming, it’s coming! Three weeks left!) However, what I do have is an anniversary ring (see profile pic) that I received last year, which will be moving over to my right hand once my ering is officially mine. Perhaps your FI would consider proposing on your vacation with a stand-in or future RHR? That way, you can still have the special moment you’ve both prepared for. In the end, the absence of the ering won’t matter a bit, I promise. (And you’ll have another piece of snazzy jewelry.) 

That said, we’re going with Blue Nile and they do overnight shipping via FedEx. Unless your setting, like mine, is on backorder, he might just be trying to throw you off track!

Post # 9
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Once I knew it was happening I stopped freaking out about it. Enjoy your vacation, and soon you’ll enjoy a proposal.  And honestly, the setting of the proposal makes zero difference.  It’ll be amazing no matter what.

Post # 11
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s totally fair of you to be let down by it–I would be too. But at least you know that a proposal is imminent!

Post # 12
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would be upset in your shoes too. Guys can be pretty clueless when it comes to rings. It will come soon though, and I am sure the proposal will still be amazing!

Post # 13
39 posts

You could say to him something like the following: “I was just reading the other day about this guy who wanted to propose to his girlfriend on a particular date but then he realised he wouldn’t have the ring by that date (!) so he bought a nice little plain ring from Claires and used that ring to pop the question with.

It was so great because he got to do it on the date that was special to them and the girl loved it! Didn’t mind at all that it wasn’t “the” ring. They got “the” ring a bit later and it was perfect because they got to have the proposal the way they wanted and it didn’t matter that the ring used for the proposal was a stand-in.”

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