- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Since I started my job a little over a year ago I’ve been being harrassed by a guy at my work. Obviously, it makes my job difficult. I’ve tried everything from casually/jokingly letting him know I dont like it to blatantly saying that I don’t think he’s funny and that I don’t appriciate him making comments to me like that. I’ve said this infront of multiple co-workers. Since then, he hasn’t been making the regular comments.
My office has a very laid back, crude humor kind of culture. I don’t fit in with that. Some of you might say that I have a stick up my bum, but the way I see it is that it’s work. And I shouldn’t feel uncomfortable by the crude comments that are directed at me and I shouldn’t hate my job because of it.
The idiot who has been harrasssing me is everyone’s favorite. He’s the “class clown” if you will. He’s over the top and insulting but people let it slide because “that’s just Joe”. Well, I don’t put up with it and that makes me the office bitch.
I had my 90 day review last week and I mentioned in the section that asked if there was anything the office could approve on I said that it would be beneficial if the company employeed some kind of anti harrasment training. HR blew up. I had to meet with them. I told them I didn’t want to give names because I had dealt with the situation myself. They told me I have to. So I did. They said they would address the company as a whole on this issue and not single me out.
THEN, my office manager came to discuss my review with me. She gave me a low grade on communication because I didn’t let HR know about my situation earlier. WHAT? I didn’t let them know because I was trying to be a “big girl” and figure it out by myself instead of crying to HR. And now I’m getting a low grade for communication?????
I’ve been trying to be nice lately and so today when Joe asked me to lunch I agreed to go. We went with 3 others. The entire time we were out to lunch he was talking about a porn festival he’s going to. HR told me in our first meeting if anything else he says makes me feel uncomfortable then I should report it. This did, but we were on lunch…..does it count?
THEN i get back to work and I hear the CEO of the company cracking a joke about “oh, careful now, we don’t want to get charged with sexual harrassment”
the entire company just takes this whole sexual harrassment thing like such a joke. It makes me sick. If the freakin CEO can’t even lead by example, who the hell is going to care?
I just want to quit. I’m sick and tired of everyone’s BS and honestly I don’t get paid enough for this shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
What the hell should I do?