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posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think she meant it as an insult. I also don’t think she was correct about it only being nice on someone who weighed two pounds. Yes, it’s tight, but I think it would be flattering as long as it was built the right way.

Don’t let it make you too upset. From personal experience, wedding planning means you have to grow a thicker skin (even if you have thick skin) really quick. Everyone has an opinion.

Hope that helps!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think she meant you in particular, but more like “you’d” have to weigh 2 lbs because that girl in the picture is so skinny! At least that’s how I took it when I read what you wrote and saw the picture. It’s a neat dress btw. 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think she meant the royal “you”, as in “anyone would have to be ridiculously thin”. She probably didn’t think she’d offend you specifically.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think she meant it towards you but just in general.  Like when I’m shopping with friends and we see something nice, we’ll comment and say things like “yeah it’s great if you’re a size 0”.  We are not calling each other fat or anything, we are just commenting on an outfit.

Post # 7
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would definitely not take that as an insult. I think you are being a tad sensitive here.

Post # 8
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14316 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think your friend meant YOU specifically, I would have taken it as you as in anyone in general just based on that picture… that model looks practically non existant and 2 dimensional!   Dont worry, the great thing about shopping for wedding dresses is that there are a million and one styles made to look great on every body type out there.

Post # 9
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349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agree with the others, I think she meant it in a general way!

PS I have the same goal to lose 30 lbs, and have also lost about 10 so far. Go us! 

Post # 10
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think she made that comment directly about you either. 

5’8 and 130 is REALLY THIN!

Post # 10
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784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I definitely do not think she meant that as an insult at all! I am very sensitive about my weight also but I do not think I would take offense to this one… I know I’m not 2 lbs and probably wont ever be. For the record, I am 5’8” and 155 lbs, so it kinda seems like we have the same body right now. So I definitely know what you mean that everything is amplified as you go on this weight loss journey, but if you can, try to let this one go because I reeeeeally don’t think she was saying it in a mean way.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Great job on droping the 10! keep up the good work. I’m sure your friend wansn’t trying to be mean or direct the comment at you specifically. You never really know how a dress will look until you try it on – they really surprise you – something on a hanger you might hate but love it when you put it on and visa versa.

Try not to let it get to you! like you said, she has been supportive so try and stay positive and keep working hard. If it worries you i would suggest not trying on dresses with her. I went alone the first time to figure out what styles i liked and didnt like and then brought some people back with me for round 2.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It doesn’t seem like she meant it to be insulting at all.  It’s an extremely form fitting dress and probably only looks good on a specific body type.  I think you’re reading into it too much.  I get it; I’m sensitive about my weight, too, but at the same time, you’ve just gotta roll with the punches!

Post # 14
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5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

agree with all the PP’s – she meant a general ‘you’ and was not implying that you are fat or need to lose weight.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I really don’t think she meant to offend you. She probably just meant that you’d have to be insanely thin to pull it off (which I’d probably agree with). If she said “you’d have to weigh 115lbs to fit into that dress” then okay, that’s a bit more realistic but saying someone would have to weigh “2 lbs” is totally just a generalization. It’s really not anything to get worked up over. I can almost guarantee that she meant nothing by it. 

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