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    pmerr    August 14, 2010   Rochester, NY

    We FINALLY found a ring that we can buy me, that doesn't have to be custom made. My FI said we'd be able to go before they close today to buy it on the motorcycle, since he just got paid & had the money. We dropped our friend's dog off at their house, and while we were there, my FI was talking to our friends "landlords" about going to buy the ring & how we finally found one. Not even 5 minutes later, he gets a call from his neighbor & GM asking to play catch at the house. He then "remembers' that he promised his GM the other day they would play catch. He usually remembers all of this & tells me multiple times. So, he wouldn't take me to get the ring, because he didn't promise me we could. There was no benefit in going now, because we couldn't take it home.

    He wouldn't change his mind, so he played catch for an hour, so I vacuumed his upstairs and cleaned his bathroom (we don't live together...it's just disgusting, and I use the shower sometimes). When I was done, I was playing on my ipod for a while, and decided to leave when they were finishing up. (didn't realize til I was getting in my car) He was upset that I was leaving! 

    I'm just soo pissed that I'll tell you we can do it, tell OTHER people about it, then as soon as something else comes along that I'd rather do, I'll do that instead. Tough luck.

     

    UGHHHHH! Sorry! Just had to vent! He's "right" so there's no use venting or anything to him right now.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm so sorry!  That's sort of mean of him to ditch you to play catch when it didn't seem like he had plans before then.

     
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    JuneBride_26June2010    June 26, 2010   Indiana (legally married 13-Apr-2009)

    i'm sorry. :( i'd be upset too - but hey once you have that ring and are wearing it, i'm sure you'll forget all about today.

     
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    I'm sorry.  I hope he realizes where you're coming from.  You should just tell him to give you the money and you'll go get it yourself.  Sigh.

     
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    pmerr    August 14, 2010   Rochester, NY

    Yeah. I'm pretty much ready to just do that. It's not that I don't care about him having his guy time. It's just that he said we could go & he isn't gettting it thru his head!

     
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    If it makes you feel better, my husband bought his own band, and I bought my own.  It was just easier since we were in a LDR. 

    Can you go today?

     
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    missplanner    May 1, 2010   Biloxi

    Wait...am I reading this right...he is not going to get your ring to go play football with guys? Like after embrassing you in front of them? Omg if so I'd be beyond mad...like breakup mad , maybe I'm reading it all wrong, hopefully I am.

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I would be pissed. It isn't just about the ring... its about him blowing you off. 

     
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    Are you sure he went to play catch?  He could of bought the ring and is planning a surprise...

     
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    casteel_dream    March 19, 2011  

    Honestly, I would be upset too. I don't think you are being selfish for being mad, he totally blew you off even though you were going to get this ring as well as very excited to get it. I think perhaps if you put it in a way that he would understand why you were upset.

     
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    jordynrose    October 16, 2010   Las Vegas, NV/Chandler, AZ

    On the surface, this is very FRUSTRATING!  However, maybe he was using this to go buy the ring as a suprise?  Maybe his friend talked him into it?  Or maybe he wanted to use them to throw you off?

     

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