Post # 1
So I’m stressed out because I’m graduating and I have so much stuff to do and I’m just crazy afraid of being called an “adult” after I graduate, or failing a class and not being permitted to graduate… or not getting my employment authorization in time to start work… This is driving me nuts! And it’s making me really crabby. I snap at poor SO a lot. All this during a time when he’s trying to be super sweet and supportive and getting ready to buy a ring and all that. He doesn’t deserve it!
I’m going to try to make it better by making him his favorite pie tonight, and just trying super hard to be sweet… but do you ladies have any tricks for just calming down and getting back to your sweet old self? I’m really tired of this stressed out and bitchy part of me!!!
Post # 4
You just need to breathe. Some of the things you have control over and some of them you do not.
Failing a class is easily prevented by doing the same thing you’ve been doing in school for years, right? No reason to stress extra. You can’t control how long it takes for people to process something, only that you do your part and get it in early or on-time.
As for being called an “adult,” it is what it is. Some things will change immediately and others will take much longer to finally sink in or make you feel like a “real adult.” Keep in mind that technically you’ve been a legal adult for a while now, so maybe it will be less overwhelming. 🙂
Congratulations on graduating and again, just breathe.
Post # 5
Sounds like you need to take some time for yourself! When we pour too much of ourselves into other things, we have to remember to take time to refill ourselves. Take a bath, watch a chick flick, whatever it is that makes you YOU. Do something you really enjoy and just relax!
Post # 6
Hope things get better for you soon! I posted a thread a couple weeks ago looking for ways to chill out. Not sure if it will help, but here it is:
Share your ZEN secrets! What helps you chill out?
Enjoy that pie!!
Post # 7
@squeak: I completely understand! I try to tell him why I am being such a pain.. and if that doesnt make him understand I just leave generally… because by the time we are apart we will have missed each other too much to be too mad/stressed. It’s difficult to balance all of the stuff you have going on AND keep your composure! Try to breathe and relax, let him in on what youre stressed about at the moment and make sure he understands your behavior. That is very sweet of you to make him his favorite pie! I am sure he will appreciate it!
Post # 8
Thank you everyone! Yeah I apologize every single night for being so bitchy, and then I just turn around and blurt something nasty again 5 minutes later… it’s so hard to control because I’m also exhausted every day! I guess I’ll try to get more sleep and just take more time to myself. I procrastinate a lot from stress so I never really allow myself to take time for myself. He’s an angel, just so patient, he snaps back a lot but then realizes he’s doing the same thing, and forgives me every day for being like this, he really doesn’t deserve it and I just feel so bad for doing it!!!
@booEXcore: thanks for sharing your own experience, it helps to know I’m not the only one out there! Makes me feel a little less Cruella…