I'm black and my Fiancé is puerto rican!

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

You could always get yourself a nice mantilla veil.

Post # 4
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My best friend is Puerto Rican and her fiance was black (haitian) and I dont remember that she had anything incorporated. I do remember there being quite a bit of reggaeton and Spanish music at the reception but I am sure that isnt what you are looking for.


Have you googled Puerto Rican wedding traditions? I was just in Puerto Rico 3 weeks ago but, honestly, it was soooo Americanized that I couldnt tell you what is specific to them aside from the frog (coqui) and certain foods….


My family is West Indian and the only thing we really do is play a lot of soca and give out black cake.


I just googled and found:

ciapas (some sort of ribbon favor)

some doll thing for the head table

the bride uses a certain flower in her bouquet

Post # 5
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Since your FI’s family doesn’t seem to have any traditions then I feel it is inappropriate to include traditions that are meaningful to others as a throw away tribute to is ethnicity.

Why not incorporate his heritage in the food you serve.

Post # 6
704 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am Puerto Rican and our weddings are no different then a regular wedding. Only thing is we played salsa, merengue and bachata. Had a puerto Rican menu of course and that’s about as Spanish it got lol. We really don’t have to much of a tradition wedding unless you want to throw in a mixed first dance with a few different moves. We started off slow dancing to a Spanish song then turned it around to “I have a feeling” then that jump on it song, then salsa and finished it off with “danza kuduro” by don Omar which got the reception off to a great start. But you do as you please and ask your fiancé if there is something special he wants to represent Puerto Ricans so you have an idea. Good luck

Post # 7
1706 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

When I read the title, all I could think of was the adorable babies you could have.  If you’replanning on them that is!

Post # 8
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Boriqua here and you can never go wrong with a good block of salsa…and a pernil

Post # 9
974 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Tutti80:  Lol I feel your pain. My FI is Dominican (which isn’t THAT different despite what they will try to convince you) and I’m stumped. They are Catholic but they go to mass maybe like once a year and really don’t know/care about most of the traditions.

Post # 14
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My husband is Puerto Rican and Ecuadorian, and I’m Nigerian (hence the NaijaPuertoDorian moniker).  Our reception was definitely more reflective of Nigerian culture,  but we did play salsa, merengue,  bahasa,  and Selena(though that’s more so due to me being a Texas born before 1995 lol).  At our rehearsal dinner my mother in law and stepmother in law made a lot of PR food,  pollo asado, arroz con glandular,  maduros… We ate good  lol. Meant to type bachata,  not bahasa. Frigging android phone! 

Post # 15
5518 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Since they don’t really have traditions I wouldn’t try to do push anything.  But if they like to “celebrate” the fact they’re puertorican every once in a while my suggestion is to incorporate it in the favors.  Coquís are frogs unique to puerto rico and make quite an annoying sound.  The island is very attached to this little frog.  They sell keychains that you can click to immitate the sound.  Maybe grab a bunch and tie ribbon or something on them?


Post # 16
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think music is a good way to incorporate some culture. Maybe his family could provide you a playlist. My FI’s family is from Chile and they don’t really have any traditions they want to incorporate, but we will definitely be playing some Latin music!

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