Post # 1
I know that he will propose…in about a year or a little longer. But sometimes I don’t understand why he can’t just do it now, logically I know that it isn’t a good idea, neither of us want a long engagement. We won’t be getting married until late 2012 so what is my rush?
I think it’s just jealousy when I see people I know getting engaged around me…and I’m stupid and want to show off a shiny bauble as well. I also want to be able to talk about wedding shit without people thinking I’m crazy. Sometimes I’ll say something about weddings or kids when hanging out with our friends…and I know that it throws them off.
Post # 3
Aw, you’re not crazy. You’re in love and anxious 🙂 It happens to the best of us heh. Maybe you could get a hobby to take your mind off of it?
Post # 4
*hugs* you are not crazy! I cannot even IMAGINE waiting that long to get married, much less get engaged and we’ve been dating a year on October 22nd.
Post # 5
((HUGS)) it’s not jealousy!! You just want to be engaged to the man of your dreams, there’s nothing wrong with that!! whenever you want to vent come here it makes it a lot easier to vent and get advice from women who know exactly what you’re going through.
Post # 6
Just curious, is there a reason you don’t want a long engagement? Personally, I LOVED having a long engagement. I got that time to enjoy the bliss of being engaged, and plenty of time to plan.
Post # 7
don’t worry, you’re not crazy!! i knew FI had the ring and i still went all crazy on him because i wanted it NOW and not in 2 months like he had planned… lol.
long engagements can be good though! ours will be 22 months, and i think it’s going to work out well, and keep stress levels down. you might want to reconsider 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks everybody for making me feel better!
I don’t know why he doesn’t want a long engagement- but when we first talked about getting married he thought people were typically engaged for only three months! I think it is partly for family reasons.
Corgitales- I would love to get a hobby! But I can’t think of anything.
Post # 9
Yea I’d seriously prefer a longer engagement. It has to do with intent w/me. I want to know his intent 100 percent. Saying it is one thing, doing it is another.
Don’t sweat it. It will happen in good time.
Post # 10
just live in the moment and enjoy being bf/gf. the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. And in terms of being engaged, it’s been the most stressful year of my life. Having a ring to show off doesn’t make it all worthwhile. It will be more worth it when we are married and life returns to normal!
Post # 11
I understand how you feel. I felt the same way, I was super happy with our relationship, but definitey felt like something was out of place before we got engaged. I also thought I didn’t want a long engagement, but was kind of forced into it and really don’t mind it!