Post # 1
I feel so done with everything. I’m done with worrying about dumb details: shoes, accessories, planning, appointments, money, people not agreeing with anything, etc. I want this wedding stuff to be over 🙁 I’m excited but at the same time I don’t care about any details anymore. Is this normal? Am I the only one?
I have people saying they’ll “maybe” come to the rehearsal dinner (best man) and people wanting to plan other parties the week of my wedding. I know it’s ok for people to do what they want but I AM TIRED. Sometimes I wonder why people don’t just ask “how are you doing? do you need help?” My brother is getting married a few months after me, my grandpa is sick and a lot of my fam won’t be at my wedding. I’m just exhausted and sad and down and blah. I just want to be on my honeymoon. Do things get worse before they get better??????
Post # 3
Everyone feels like that at on point. Just take a few weeks off and you’ll feel better!
Post # 4
YOU ARE NOT the only one. I am right there with you! Let’s just muscle through and try to enjoy ourselves!
Are you planning a honeymoon for after?
Post # 5
Yeah we have one planned for the Monday after the wedding. I just can’t wait to go 🙂
Post # 6
Yep. Let’s see, you have about 3 months left… that is the exact point where I threw up my hands in frustration as well! This type of attitude pretty much prevailed for me until the wedding day, but it allowed me to enjoy the day SO MUCH! Honestly, I think all of the work just made me forget about what everyone else thinks and I enjoyed the day for myself – it became only about me and my hubby on the wedding day.
Good luck lady! These next 3 months will be a rollar coaster of emotions, but they will be so worth it!
Post # 7
Awe just keep your chin up and push through it! I understand that you feel this way but just think…you’re getting married! 🙂 In all honestly, no the little details should not/do not matter but unfortunatly we all go overboard too soon and have no way out. Just take a deep breathe and don’t worry about anything wedding related for a few days (I know, easier said than done) then start fresh when you feel ready! Remember, just breath, it will all work out! 🙂
Post # 8
@MsReese: I feel you – I’m done too. And most of my extended family has RSVP’d no, so it’s really starting to feel like a FI family reunion, where me and my parents are guests. Hopefully my friends come through.
Post # 9
It ebbs and flows! I felt very similarly to you a few months ago. I forgot about wedding stuff for a few weeks.. then was happy to get back into it. Last week, again, so wanted it to be overwith! Now I’m excited again… You just need to keep venting to fellow brides… I think we’re the only ones who can understand! Ha!
Post # 10
I went through it as well! I was getting so angry and frustrated but when it came it all worked out. Day of everyone pulled together. It’s a pain especially because no one will care as much as you do about this wedding..
Try to keep it together… you will be married soon!!
Post # 11
Take a break and adopt this saying “It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be fun.” And then focus on a fun part for a while!
Post # 12
Girl, I am right there with you. I am sick of the wedding, and just want to be married and on my honeymoon right now.
Post # 13
I have just announced to everyone that I no longer have a sense of humor about this wedding. I tell them that I am working full time, planning a wedding for over 200 people in New York City by myself and planning the rehersal dinner by myself. If they don’t have something helpful or positive to say, I do not want to hear it. It really is amazing how nobody seems to understand how much work, planning logistics and emotion (not to mention money) goes into all of this.
I guess basically what I am trying to say is – I FEEL YOU
On the bright side, when you put that dress on and walk down the aisle, I am pretty sure you will forget all about this stuff.
Post # 14
I feel you too. I’m only a month into my engagement/wedding planning, and I’ve thrown my hands up and literaly said “I quit!” multiple times! It is frustrating, but also exciting. Time will fly and it will all be over soon, and you will be sitting next to your hunny on your honeymoon in no time! Hold in there! *hugs*
Post # 15
I have never met a bride that didn’t reach this point. I got there! It came and went. Toward the end (the last week really) I just said F it all. Everything I could do was done, whatever happened- happened! It was a really calming experience. It also allowed me to enjoy that time, as opposed to needing bail money because I swear I was on the verge of freaking the freak out on people. There are so many things you just can’t control, no matter how much you’ve prepared, no matter how organized you are. So its best to just throw up your hands and let things be.
Post # 16
Yes, I feel like it comes in waves.
Take a week or two off from all things wedding. Have a glass of wine. Take a bubble bath. Just take some time to live your non-wedding planning life.
It will all be worth it in the end, but it’s not worth losing your mind over!