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Last night I had another christmas engagement dream!  I won't go into the details, but I don't know why I keep having holiday engagement dreams!  I guess it is my favorite time of the year because my family is around, and more special because I am graduating Dec 16, but it is normally a time of stress for me and my SO.  The ONLY thing that my SO and I can not figure out about our future married lives is where the heck we will spend christmas!  In my family it is the only day that all of my siblings and their kids are in one house and we play with the kids and then drink the night away while we put the presents out.  His parents are divorced and his mom AND his step mom still have young children even though they all live in the same town we live in.  He thinks that it is more important to be there for his younger siblings. I get really frustrated that we have to be seperated :(

Wow, sorry about the rant!  Anyway, does anyone else automatically mix the warm fuzzy feelings of the Christmas season with a warm fuzzy engagement, even though it isn't the best time of the year for your relationship?

@impatientlypatient: haha i keep replying to your posts!  I just posted about my engagement dream haha.I wonder where christmas will be too. the Eve is more important with his family. they do the yule log and decorate the tree all on the eve!  my family does that way before and then just hangs on on the eve... i guess we'd split it that way. if you dont live far, maybe visit? or switch things each year?

@ravenwait: hah!  I just commented on your post too!  But I don't think that Christmas is somewhere where I can compromise.  I literally get to see my family together for two days a year, christmas eve and christmas day.  We live in the same town as the SO's family but he feels he is obligated to go to two houses on christmas day.  If we don't celebrate at my mom's house, our kids will never meet their cousins!

@impatientlypatient: you live that far away? i think whichever day works best for your family should be decided first, and then his family sees him the other days leading up to it, or after. christmas is a whole seaosn. you could celebrate dec 20th and it'd still feel like christmas :)

@ravenwait: My sister lives 12 hrs away and my brother lives 9 hrs away (I'm only 90 minutes away from my parents home).  Christmas is the only time they both make the trip

i think that your SO should be a tad mor understanding of the stress involved with seeing your own family. there will be his someday!

ps, we are on the leaderboard for most posts today, haha

I love Christmas proposals!

A family friend's husband asked her on Christmas. She came down that morning and he had ornaments strung up that said Will You Marry Me?

My step-dad asked my mom on Christmas too. He gave her this huge box that she opened that had smaller and smaller boxes until it got THE BOX.

So romantic.

I do think the holidays are some you'll both have to compromise on. Last year, my boyfriend and I spent Christmas Eve at his parents and Christmas with my mom. So this year, we're doing the opposite and will alternate every year.

Christmas proposals are on both sides of family too...sort of.  My mom's ering was stolen when they were still a young couple and a few years ago my dad decided to replace it for christmas.  We went and picked out a really nice set and he tied a ribbon around them and hung them on the tree.  We tried to wait until she noticed them but we couldn't keep the secret and he got down on one knee and proposed to her all over again!  My SO's dad and step mother to be couldn't figure out what they wanted for their wedding so his dad had a minister come to their house on christmas morning and they were married in their pjs with their children as witnesses :). 

@ravenwait: I think he will come around!  Last year (our first christmas together) he ended up coming to celebrate on christmas eve then driving home, then on christmas day he did presents with his dad in the morning, came to my parents house (almost 2 hours away) for the afternoon, then drove all the way back to his mom's for christmas dinner.  I just hope that we can figure out a way to spend the entire day together!