(Closed) I’m dumbfounded

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry that you lost out on the money with your daughter cancelling the wedding.  At least they didn’t cancel the wedding for another reason.

Post # 4
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry that she did this. Hopefully, you can get some of the deposit money back and return some items. Maybe there was some drama going on and she just didn’t want to deal with it. Maybe you can have a reception when she gets back 🙂

Post # 5
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

May 7?  Wow, that’s a little over a month away!  I am sorry this is happening to you.  I wish you luck (especially with getting some of your deposits back)

Post # 6
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

What was her reasoning for the cancellation?  Is she just frustrated with wedding planning,  I know the weeks leading up to my wedding I wanted to elope.  It’s stressful.  Can you calmly talk to her and find out her reasonings and see if there is some sort of resolution.  Explain nicely about the lost deposit, changing guests’ plans, and also that one day she may regret not having a wedding.  Reassure her that everything will be ok, and getting frustrated is normal.  I know it seems counterintuitive because you are upset right now (with good reason) but maybe offering support to her will help

Post # 8
Member
435 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry.  Prayers coming your way.

Post # 9
Member
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I know everyone says the bride & groom should do what makes them happy… but people forget that parents also spend all of their adult lives waiting for their children to marry. It is a parents’ dream as much as it is the child’s dream. Sorry you won’t get to experience that with your daughter, and that she was not most considerate of the finances you gave to her.

Maybe you should put her on a payment plan to pay back what you are out. You basically entered into a “contract” with the end result being her wedding. Then again that might cause some bad blood, so I guess only you can decide what is best for your situation. Good luck.

Post # 10
Member
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, I’m sorry to hear this, that is really a shame.

Post # 11
Member
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

This is just so sad, both for the situation now and because its so obvious that she will deeply regret this one day.  I will be praying for you.

Post # 12
Member
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m so sorry.  I never did agree with the “it’s the bride & groom’s day, whatever makes them happy” mentality either…  Sometimes people just have to learn the hard way.

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