Post # 1
I was helping plan our daughters wedding for May 7, spent alot of $ then she tells me last night she has changed her mind and is going to the court house instead and not having a wedding. After putting all the $ and time into it, she does this to me. I’m not rich, I still have 2 little boys at home to raise and she takes my $ and throws it away w/o regard. Thanks everyone that has answered my questions, I guess I don’t have any reason to hang around any longer. Good luck on you weddings 🙂
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that you lost out on the money with your daughter cancelling the wedding. At least they didn’t cancel the wedding for another reason.
Post # 4
I am so sorry that she did this. Hopefully, you can get some of the deposit money back and return some items. Maybe there was some drama going on and she just didn’t want to deal with it. Maybe you can have a reception when she gets back 🙂
Post # 5
May 7? Wow, that’s a little over a month away! I am sorry this is happening to you. I wish you luck (especially with getting some of your deposits back)
Post # 6
What was her reasoning for the cancellation? Is she just frustrated with wedding planning, I know the weeks leading up to my wedding I wanted to elope. It’s stressful. Can you calmly talk to her and find out her reasonings and see if there is some sort of resolution. Explain nicely about the lost deposit, changing guests’ plans, and also that one day she may regret not having a wedding. Reassure her that everything will be ok, and getting frustrated is normal. I know it seems counterintuitive because you are upset right now (with good reason) but maybe offering support to her will help
Post # 7
Well…to make a long story short she is marrying into a family that survives by using whoever they can and using our goverments assistance to get by. So they are teaching her how to do this, she wanted to change the wedding date to like this week so they can move 2 states away and not have to pay this months rent. I’m having a hard time with all of this, I raised her better then this and it makes me sick. I tried to tell her all the $ I’m out if she cancels and she don’t care, she’d rather go to the court house, move and screw me over just as well as someone she doesn’t know. You just don’t mess with family and think everything is ok. I told her I’ll send a bus ticket to get back home when she wisens up and decides he’s not providing, I hope I’m pass all the hurt and anger I have right now by then. I know you bees don’t know me but if any of you would pray for the situation and my peace I’d sure appreciate it. Sorry for the rant you guys have weddings to plan so get busy!!!
Post # 8
I’m sorry. Prayers coming your way.
Post # 9
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I know everyone says the bride & groom should do what makes them happy… but people forget that parents also spend all of their adult lives waiting for their children to marry. It is a parents’ dream as much as it is the child’s dream. Sorry you won’t get to experience that with your daughter, and that she was not most considerate of the finances you gave to her.
Maybe you should put her on a payment plan to pay back what you are out. You basically entered into a “contract” with the end result being her wedding. Then again that might cause some bad blood, so I guess only you can decide what is best for your situation. Good luck.
Post # 10
Oh, I’m sorry to hear this, that is really a shame.
Post # 11
This is just so sad, both for the situation now and because its so obvious that she will deeply regret this one day. I will be praying for you.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry. I never did agree with the “it’s the bride & groom’s day, whatever makes them happy” mentality either… Sometimes people just have to learn the hard way.