(Closed) I’m feeling conflicted about my E-Ring… Help Please :(

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
Member
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Definitely talk to him.  It isn’t that you’re replacing the diamond or anything.  Just tell him what all you posted here and hopefully he’ll be completely understanding.  Let us know how it goes!

Post # 5
Member
2608 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

give it a nice cleaning, take some new pics, and post them here!  You’ll get tons of compliments and you’ll fall in love with it all over again 🙂

Post # 6
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5310 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I can totally understand having negative associations with your ring when you have had a negative experience like that!

I think it can be very hard to convince yourself to “love it for what it is” when you feel your FI and you both got a bit “taken” by the original jeweler. If you are very honest with yourself, can you really say that you will be able to “love it for what it is” despite your negative associations? If yes, then keep it. If not, I do not see the point in living with feeling this way without saying anything!

You know your FI best, in this situation. I do know some women post here about having FI’s who would react very negatively to a desire to “change the ring”, but others who don’t have that at all. I never had an original engagement ring, and am not going through process of getting my 3rd setting (the first two did not work out for me for different reasons!) and my husband is incredibly supportive (though, I have avowed that the only change I shall ever have from now on in will be if I decide to wear a twist tie! Right hand rings only from now on in!).  I know many women who upgrade their stones and/or sets over the years and have complete support.

In your situation, I do think it is perfectly legitimate to feel as you do, and in your shoes, knowing my own relationship, I definitely would talk to my husband about it as we are very open and honest with each other. I think if you communicated to him your honest feelings…that you love the sentiment and that it will always be the ring he proposed to you with, and that you actually feel very torn about this because you do feel sentimental, and then explain why you also feel that sadness about the whole situation, well, I think he would (well, I hope he would) want you to also be happy and at peace with what you are wearing on your hand every day in your life together.

I am sorry he had such a bad experience with buying stones/rings in Dubai, I know a few people who had very good experiences so that certainly is disappointing!

Etsy has some wonderful examples of beautiful work. My third set is actually going to be an Etsy creation! Who were you looking at?

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