I'm feeling like my wedding is one big shrug.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
7400 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Miss Moxy:  You need to stop thinking that a NO rsvp means that your friends/family do not love you enough or do not support your marriage. People can love and support you without actually beign physically there. Please do not hold grudges against people just because they cannot make it to your wedding.

Your wedding will be a great day and you will celebrate with those who can make it. Enjoy it. 

Post # 4
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896 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@Miss Moxy:  I am sorry you are feeling this way.  Just try to lower your expectations.  Unfortunately, weddings are not important to almost anyone other than the people getting married and very very immediate family members (like mom and dad if you have a good relationship with them).  

I think I am a little uncommon in this sense, but I consider all weddings an inconvenience to me, and I prefer to not be invited.  Maybe some of the people who you invited feel this way.  Just try to focus on those who will be attending and how happy those people are for you!  It is better that the others do not attend than that they attend without wanting to be there for you guys!  Try to look at the bright side!!!

Post # 5
Member
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Miss Moxy:  Aw man, that is such a fear! It’s especially compounded by the fact tht my dad keeps mentioning to me that he had a lot of guests at his wedding and doesnt remember exactly but thinks he had 99-100% acceptance rate.

In the past I have had things like this happen to me for  birthdays and other parties. It hurt so badly I can’t imagine if this happened to me for my wedding. 

I feel for  you

Post # 7
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896 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@Miss Moxy:  Think about all the money u will save!  that should cheer u up!  I understand how you feel, though.  This did not happen at my wedding (I did not even send out invites cuz i was only inviting 28 ppl and knew they would come) but i have had no shows and people lacking interest when I have hosted gatherings, etc.  I just stopped doing it, and with the money I save not having to entertain people I go on vacations.  lol.  I am like a bitter, old lady, I know!

Post # 9
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7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The people that you will have there will be great.  Don’t worry.  

Post # 10
Member
7197 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Miss Moxy:  If you want someone to read a poem or psalm, I strongly suggest you choose it yourself. It’s actually a lot of pressure to choose something for someone else’s wedding ceremony, even if you reassure them that you’ll be happy with anything.

Post # 11
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

It’s because nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do. To you it’s the center of your world and you know all the hard work you’ve put in. That is why I am a huge fan of eloping or small ceremonys. I will be having a private ceremony with just me, FI and my two children. I will have everything I want and nothing I don’t. 

Post # 12
Member
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Miss Moxy:  so sorry to hear that fewer people are coming as you thought! I would focus on the people who ARE there for you and who are happy for you! 

Post # 13
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2449 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I understand where you’re coming from, we invited 132 people and everyone was so excited, and then they didn’t even bother to RSVP. We’re having only 89 people at the wedding, and that’s including the two of us. These are people who we’ve flown across the country for their weddings but they can’t even be bothered to RSVP. Or the people who told me over Facebook a  month before the wedding that they can’t make it. Those people won’t be staying in my life anymore, the good thing is that a wedding is a great way to weed out those people who you don’t need in your life. You can replace them with people who truly do care about you. 

Post # 15
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495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Miss Moxy:  my wedding is in 9 days, and YES I have felt this way, espically lately with cancelations and what not, I got RSVPs back from people who told me they wouldnt miss it for anything then all of a sudden a RSVP shows up with sorry and a NO checked.  I have come to realize with tons of help from Bees that If they can’t be here for my special day then oh well because the people that are going to be there will make it great no matter what.  I started with 60 poeple saying YES to rsvps and now my final head count is at 42, so no worries.  I was super bummed yesterday with everything negative just piliing on and feeling like its just another day to people and who cares but I am past the negative and am excited to show my FI my dress and see how everything I planned out came together.

 

Please dont let the negative get to you, your wedding will be amazing, trust me 🙂 As Bees have told me recently be upset today then move forward and enjoy getting married 😉

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