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northernazbride, I'm so sorry :( I will say that one thing I've learned in planning my own wedding is that some ppl just weren't raised the same way and don't see the importance in those things like I do (and you do). Although Mr Frenchie's mom has offered to help in some ways, his father has been completly out of it (divorced parents). And even though she is paying for the rehearsal dinner she sees no need to do invitations for it. I even offered to do them and she was like, "Well I sent everyone in my family an email so I know who is coming." While I'm thinking what about the out of towners? Some ppl just don't find as much value in the things we do. Sadly :(
((Big Hugs))
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way around such an important time in your life. I understand how you're feeling because my FIs family wasn't very friendly or supportive (emotionally or financially) about our wedding at first either. In all this wedding planning, we've realized that unfortunately, a lotta people don't really know what's expected of them or how important every part of this process is for the engaged couple. We're the only ones who know every little detail and wish that they knew how much time & effort goes into this one day!
Have you & your FI talked to his parents about checking in with them to see if they have an idea if they can go at all or not? I know in my family, we have to track down RSVPs cause people just forget sometimes.
I hope it all works out for you, try not to focus on who won't be there and celebrate with who is there instead. Situations are always what you make of it - you're going to have a blast no matter what! 
Thanks ladies, I really appreciate it. FI's parents are divorced and it was his dad, aunt and cousin we had to track down and who are now giving us the run-around. His aunt asked us if she could bring her boyfriend who apparently has a working car and $40 for gas money... we said it was alright but it's just one more person. I'm looking at my guest list and I have 11 people on my side and if his dad, cousin, aunt and now her boyfriend show up that brings FI's side to 22 and my mom is paying for EVERYTHING, including the rehersal dinner. His family hasn't offer help with anything. My mom and I just think it's getting sort of effed up. I don't want to talk to my FI about it because I know he will get upset.
I'm sorry! I know it's tough. My friend is getting married and her FMIL basically told her that she couldn't expect a lot of people from her family to even bother making the trip to her wedding (about 2 hrs. away) because not everyone can afford gas, hotel, etc. It really hurt her feelings, but I told her you don't want people there who aren't willing to make the trip. I hope you feel better!!
Thanks bridetobee and you other girls again, I just re-read my posts and I sound like the biggest whiner ever. With just the wedding two and a half weeks away I'm just getting stressed. I'm going to go sit in the sauna and relax... it's all going to be OK (I really, really hope!)
Just remember that those who are most important to you will definitely be making the trip!
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Ugh, I don't even know where to begin. I'm just feeling sort of sad and weirded out. So, we just passed our rsvp date and there were several member of my FI's family who failed to respond. Over the weekend we went to see his mom and other said family members. We got some really lame excuses from them as to why they never responded. Among other excuses, these family members were whining about not knowing if they would have the money to get there, and it really upsets me because we're literally talking about $40 in gas money. We sent out STDs five months ago. I know times are tough but I'm sorry, it's not too hard to come up with $40 if you really want to. These people work and have jobs... I know they aren't made of money but come on. I need to get a final count into my caterer in a few days so these people need to figure out what the hell they're doing and let us know. I shouldn't have to track people down like this. If they knew this was a problem, they should have called us and let us know why they didn't rsvp and explained their situation.
Then I was talking to my mom, who is paying for everything and she told me she thought it was really strange that no one in FI's family has offered to help with anything. She said she felt hurt that no one has called her to see if she needed help with anything (financially or in any other way) or even to introduce themselves and say hello. I know my FI feels bad about it too because we've talked about it. I know this probably doesn't sound like a big deal, and it's really not, it's just annoying to me and I needed to vent a bit. There's more to the story and other stupid details I left out but I don't want to bore anyone to tears. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.