Im freaking out….wedding in two weeks. I wanna puke.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@jesssamesssa:  As someone who does this stuff for a living (event planning is a huge part of my job) trust me when I say that not every single thing will go as you planned. Some things will work out better and some things will work out worse. However, you are the only person that knows exactly what is supposed to happen and in what order…so you are the only person who will notice.

I know it’s hard, but try to let go and have fun. There are just some things you can’t control. Focus on the exciting part – you’re getting freakin’ married! Who cares about anything else? It will all work out, I promise.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@jesssamesssa:  I know when my wedding is only 2 weeks away, I’ll probably feel like this too. Heck, I’m going dress shopping for the first time ever, in a week, and I feel like I’m gonna puke just from that!

But everything will work out, just try and stay calm. It will be the absolute best day/night of your life! 🙂 Try to “let go” of wanting to control everything (totally easier said than done. I’m a MAJOR control freak,) and focus on your soon-to-be-husband. And hey, enjoy the party! 

Post # 5
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2372 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I am also getting married on te 21at and I DID puke 🙁 However I think that was really more of a bad food thing lol. I know how you feel! I cant wait to be married to him its just that there’s so much I am afraid I will forget something and I just want everyone to have a great night!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My best advice is just to go in with a sense of humor – assume that not everything will go 100% to plan, but it is the little oopses that make funny memories and I promise hardly anyone else will even notice. We had a fairly informal wedding and didn’t have any kind of rehearsal, so it took ages for us all to shuffle around into the right positions. Everyone thought it was hilarious and it didn’t affect anyone’s enjoyment of the day at all. Also – it rained, my shoes got wet, and I stepped on my dress. In the end it didn’t matter a bit. Just have fun with it and enjoy the day.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

@jesssamesssa:  oh haha I stopped watching four weddigs because I couldnt stand how whiney and nitpicky they were! They were totally egged on to do that though you know? I have worked hard and suddenly I am having the irrational fear that everything is gonna look so dumb haha. I am sure it wont! Our weddings will rock!!! We can do it!!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh, girl, I hear you. I’m the same way–I had so many “WHAT IF THIS HAPPENS.” You know what? Everything was okay. One of my earrings disappeared. The favors were forgotten once, DH and his brother went to take them to the venue and forgot the majority of them. That was agitating (because my grandma made them and it was a huge waste and I’m sure looked really stupid with only 30-40-something suckers in the bowl, rather than 100), but it wasn’t that bad. We had issues with the DJ, which my bridesmaids handled. Honestly, I was much too excited and happy to really notice except the DJ, which I didn’t have to handle.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@vorpalette:  If you don’t mind me asking, what happened with the DJ? 

Post # 12
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m getting married on the 27th and I know what you mean!  I am a people pleaser and it makes me so worried about how people will react.  Are they going to like the food?  Will they be comfortable?  Will something offend them?  Is this too long… what if someone messes up an order (we have some people with dietary restrictions).  I’m just trying to roll it off my back and try to follow the motto “que sera sera.” I’ve come to acknowledge that things will not go to plan, so that way I can’t get dissapointed on the day (I know kind of a backwards philosophy) but I also try to convince myself that I did my absolute best and ultimately the only person who matters is my fiance.

I’m sure everything will turn out better than you expect!

Post # 14
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670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Another 9/21 Bride here and I am sooo freaking excited! As far as things going perfect… well, I can only control myself, lol. I am just so super excited to be marrying my FH and to me, that is what is most important.

Can’t believe its 2 weeks away!!! Yay!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jesssamesssa:  Ah, I see! I’m glad your BM’s stepped in then!! I’m nervous about my DJ which is why I asked. He’s been a little sketchy since I’ve asked him to offically be our DJ.

Post # 16
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lolita39:  Sigh. He came with our venue (reception venue did just about everything for us, which was awesome), 20 years experience, etc. I made lists of must play/do not play songs and sent them to our coordinator, who I assumed would share them and our timeline (that she created) to the DJ. Nope, two weeks before the wedding (TWO WEEKS), he emails me and says he needs to have a 45 minute meeting with us, and he can ONLY meet on weekdays after 6PM. I respond and tell him that that isn’t possible this late in the game, and can we work it out through email? He stops replying. I email coordinator and she tells me it can be done over the phone, so I email DJ and mention this. He immediately gets back to me and is happy to have a phone conversation, so I give him DH’s number, and he emails me back with paperwork to fill out, that’s basically stuff he should have already gotten from the coordinator (our music lists/likes, timeline, etc.)! I fill it out anyway and email it back, he calls DH and barely asks him about music. He wants to know stuff like how did we meet? How long have we been together? ARGH.

Wedding comes, and we get announced, come in, and we’re supposed to go right into the first dance, except that he’s an idiot and there’s this awkward chunk of time before he finally starts rambling about our first dance song and plays it. We finish, get our food, and he is supposed to get the microphone for the speeches out to the best man AS SOON AS the last guest is seated from the buffet. Again, HUGE chunk of time between the last guest through and the best man getting the speech (like, 15+ minutes), where I kept looking over at the DJ booth to see wtf he was doing. Plates were being cleared before the speeches started, when I wanted people to be eating during them. 

Then, he opens the dance floor with a slow song…that I hate. (Christina Perri’s “A Thousand Years” from effing Twilight) A song that was the VERY FIRST song listed on my do not play list. My MOH went and talked to him, and he told her FLAT OUT that he never read our lists. WTF! She stood up there and went through the lists with him. Then he played ANOTHER song on my do not play list (a Black Eyed Peas song, when the list said NO BLACK EYED PEAS), so another BM went to speak with him. He “apologized” for the “misunderstanding,” and she tried to go through the lists (because he was also, still, ignoring my must play list, and played several of those songs during dinner, when we wanted to dance to those), and he made her leave the booth (she also went up to request a song later, and he responded that he “doesn’t play that at weddings,” though he DID play it for her). It didn’t happen again, but I wasn’t real happy with his performance aside from blatantly ignoring what we wanted/asked for.

He must have seen my comments from the survey the venue sent me, because he sent me an email, apologizing for not “connecting” with us as well as we should have, which I promptly deleted.

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