Post # 1
I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I had been stressing over what to give out as favors almost since we got engaged 1.5 years ago. Should we be cute and gift everyone umbrellas since it rains so much on the east coast? Or maybe cookies in the shape of Michigan where FI is from? Or mini-champagne bottles, no my sister just did that.
I was torturing myself over what people would actually like, knowing that I personally never take the favor unless the bride FORCES me to, which has happened before. (long story, but I don’t eat desserts and the favors were cupcakes and the bride came up to me specifically to make sure I took one and ate it! Awkward!). And no offense to brides who give a donation to charity, because obviously it’s for a good cause, but I always thought that was a little bossy since the guests don’t get to choose what charity it goes to. I’m not trying to argue that it’s not a nice favor, but it was never for me.
So finally I asked my Mom and she said SCREW the favors! No one notices if they’re absent (except maybe other brides-to-be) and there’s no reason to stress over it. I’m FREE!!!
Anyone else decide to go favor-less?
Post # 3
Whoo! I agree, screw the favors. I read a poll here on Weddingbee and something staggering like 75% leave them on the table or throw them in the garbage immediately after the wedding. What a waste of money.
We’re 99% sure we’re not doing favors. In the odd chance that we do, they’ll be mini bottles of champagne.
Post # 4
I’m so happy for you! FI and I didn’t want to do them but his parents insisted it’s a must in their culture!
Post # 5
we are just doing bags to go with our candy bar (comes with the reception) for our “favors”
i honestly am SO glad that it was included and i didn’t even have to waste time thinking about favors… i think back to every wedding i’ve been to… can’t remember what the favor was, and even if idid, i’ve thrown all of them out!
i’m glad we didn’t have to spend anything on the favor part.
Post # 6
I am not doing favors either!! I always forget to take them or never use them, and there were so many other things I wanted to spend that money on for the wedding. I had thought about making mix-CDs with music from the ceremony and reception along with some meaningful songs for us, but the FI thought it was “unethical” to make that many CDs since we don’t have distribution rights.
I agree with you! One less thing to worry about!
Post # 7
we’re doing what i’ve seen other couples do, which is give a small donation to a charity in lieu of favors. there will usually be a sign near the guestbook that says “in leiu of favors, a donation has been made to _____”.
i really like that idea.
Post # 8
I decided not to do favors a long time ago, and I’m so glad I have one less thing to deal with!
Post # 9
I never take them anyway unless it’s something I can eat or really use. I would not care if there were no favors at a wedding – a great union, venue, food and music is We didn’t have favors either. I had that moment where I thought we should have some, that otherwise, guests would think we’re cheap or something… But DH didn’t want them because they would take up some space in our luggage and we actually needed all the space we could get.
I didn’t argue with that…
Enjoy your new found freedom!
Post # 10
@missyjyc – I helped put together and set up a candy bar for my best friend’s wedding (I was a BM). It was a HUGE hit! The staff set it up about 1 hour before the wedding ended and as I was leaving I noticed there wasn’t a piece of candy left.
@chillmer – I think I voted on those polls and I definitely never ever take favors unless the bride is staring at me. I’ve gotten everything you can imagine: customized chocolate bars, ethnic toys, cookies, cupcakes, donations to charity, candles, you name it. I always leave it b/c I don’t want to have to carry it home.
Oh and my sister gave champagne bottles and my Mom told me that barely anyone took them. She had to gather up about 100 bottles of champagne after the wedding and take them home. It’s not b/c they were in a bad spot, people just didn’t want them. So we said SCREW it!!!
Post # 11
we’re not doing favors either. our place serves great desserts during dinner, so instead of adding cake to that, we’re having the slices boxed up individually and given to guests as they leave. we’re cutting the cake, just not serving it.
Post # 12
I went to a wedding with champagne favors, and no one took them, so I took like 10 home. I would be thrilled if there were leftovers – more champagne for me to drink!
Post # 13
Yeah I decided that favors didn’t make any sense to me. I’ve liked it when I’ve gotten them, but I never felt the lack when I didn’t, and I’m trying to make my reception as much like a party and as little like a wedding as possible. Congrats on feeling free – that’s usually when you know you’ve made the right decision for you! (What has made me free recently was the realization that my thank you cards don’t have to match anything else or even each other, as long as they get done – I can use up all the pretty blank notecards in my desk for free!)
Post # 14
I love the idea of no favors. My friend had a photobooth at her wedding, and our favors were the pictures from the booth. That would be the only way I would do favors 🙂
Post # 15
I rarely use the favors so we decided to have animal crackers since our wedding is at the zoo and since they are cheap we will put a tag on the bag that says we will donate $ to the charity of our choice but if anyone wants to write in their favorite charity we will leave a spot for that too. I think favors can be skipped.
Post # 16
I am a no favours bride also 😀
I decided early on in planning that I wasn’t going to do a favour when I read 2 simultaneous WB polls: What favours do you love? and What favours do you hate? I swear EVERY favour was on both polls… even edible ones.
The posts made me look into a little further and I found out that favours are not proper etiquette and the whole business of favours was introduced by the wedding industry to make brides spend more money.
And that was that!