(Closed) I’m getting annoyed!!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t see why they wouldn’t work together — same fabric, color, brand, and both empire waist style. I can’t imagine why they would look so differently on her body type, though, given that they both are the same empire styling. I think it is fine for the MOH to be in a separate dress, for what it is worth.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh I completely think they’ll work together! They both have unique, modern and feminine necklines. I used to work in a bridal store and honestly the biggest thing to make sure of when mixing dresses is that the fabric is the same, so as long as you’ve got that covered (which you do!) I think you’re a-ok!!! They’re both BEAUTIFUL! Lots of people let the MOH wear a different dress anyway so I don’t think it’s out of the ordinary at all, good luck!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Must be the way the second one is draped to one side. Regardless, I do think the two styles will work well together. Nothing to get too worked up over. 🙂

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think they will look fine together. Same color and basic style.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have a slightly larger chest and styles like the first one usually don’t look good on me, something about how that halter style sits on the chest.  It usually looks like the halter straps/bands are hoisting my boobs up and might be losing the battle . . . So, I know what you’re talking about with that! 

I think both dresses would look great together.  They’re the same color, fabric and style, except for the straps.  How could they not be complimentary?

In the end, even if your mom is paying, you should have the final decision and do what makes you happy for your wedding.  And, if your mother is using the fact that she is giving you the money for the wedding to control decisions or guilt you into doing exactly what she wants, then maybe you need to communicate what you want for your wedding and ask her to be more open minded to your desires because, in the end, it is your wedding.

You need to be open to compromise but stand your ground on what you deem important.  So, if you want to let your MOH wear the other dress and have your other girls wear the first dress, than do it.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

They certainly look different, but they go very very well together and I kind of like the idea of the MOH having a different style!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i love the idea of letting you moh getting something to help her stand out a little

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Those dresses look beautiful! Go ahead and have your MOH wear the different dress. It’ll be nice in photos because she will stand out from the other girls, but in a subtle way.

Here’s a plan for dealing with your mom:

1. In as calm and open a way as possible, let your mom know how stressed she is making you.

2. Give her all of the research you’ve done on various budget areas like stationary and flowers and show her the options and descrcibe what you want.

3.Explain how you desparately need her help, this is your moment of need, you need her support, etc., then…

4. Have her find a way to make it work and report back to you! 😉

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

They totally work together!! I actually really like the combo 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I think you are totally fine to leave the Bms in the first dress, and have MOH in the second dress.   Same color, length, and fabric.  The dresses are very similar.

As for mom’s budget and not liking what you pick out, can you talk to her about your budget concerns and offer that if invitations are the most important to her, you’ll pool more money into that?  But then you’ll pay for your flowers on your own.  (Or vice versa.  You get the idea.)

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that it will look great! Especially since she is the MOH…a little something something to distinguish her from the rest of your bridesmaids.

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