Post # 1
I am trying to please everyone, but it’s kind of hard because my bridesmaids like different dresses, and want different hairstyles that I don’t think will look good with one of the dresses and then my mom thinks they all need the same dress…
so here is the dress everyone was going to wear and that looked good on everyone, except my MOH, who has big boobs and it hangs out to where it’s not as fitted as it is on the other girls..so she looked all sad, so I said she could have the other dress it was between since she was the MOH and its the same brand, color and fabric. Do ya’ll think these two dresses will work together, and if not (my mom does not think so) should I switch to everyone having the same dress as the MOH or having my MOH suck it up and if everyone wears the same dress as the MOH I don’t want their hair in front of their shoulders because of the flower adornment, at least in pics..but my sister wants her hair down and curly..
anyways, I am annoyed.. on top of that my mom does not like my ideas and examples for flowers or stationary…and since she is paying that would be fine except her budget she gave me does not allow for fancy stationary and tons of flowers. I love em all, but I can’t make anyone happy and it is frustrating!
Original dress I planned for everyone…everyone liked except MOH
The one my MOH likes and I let her get …but may switch everyone to…
will they work together ? thanks!
Post # 3
I don’t see why they wouldn’t work together — same fabric, color, brand, and both empire waist style. I can’t imagine why they would look so differently on her body type, though, given that they both are the same empire styling. I think it is fine for the MOH to be in a separate dress, for what it is worth.
Post # 4
Oh I completely think they’ll work together! They both have unique, modern and feminine necklines. I used to work in a bridal store and honestly the biggest thing to make sure of when mixing dresses is that the fabric is the same, so as long as you’ve got that covered (which you do!) I think you’re a-ok!!! They’re both BEAUTIFUL! Lots of people let the MOH wear a different dress anyway so I don’t think it’s out of the ordinary at all, good luck!!!
Post # 5
they do look different..the first one is more shirred and hangs fro her boobs more like a maternity dress or something for some reason, but not on the other girls. weird I know.
Post # 6
Must be the way the second one is draped to one side. Regardless, I do think the two styles will work well together. Nothing to get too worked up over. 🙂
Post # 7
I think they will look fine together. Same color and basic style.
Post # 8
I have a slightly larger chest and styles like the first one usually don’t look good on me, something about how that halter style sits on the chest. It usually looks like the halter straps/bands are hoisting my boobs up and might be losing the battle . . . So, I know what you’re talking about with that!
I think both dresses would look great together. They’re the same color, fabric and style, except for the straps. How could they not be complimentary?
In the end, even if your mom is paying, you should have the final decision and do what makes you happy for your wedding. And, if your mother is using the fact that she is giving you the money for the wedding to control decisions or guilt you into doing exactly what she wants, then maybe you need to communicate what you want for your wedding and ask her to be more open minded to your desires because, in the end, it is your wedding.
You need to be open to compromise but stand your ground on what you deem important. So, if you want to let your MOH wear the other dress and have your other girls wear the first dress, than do it.
Post # 9
They certainly look different, but they go very very well together and I kind of like the idea of the MOH having a different style!
Post # 10
i love the idea of letting you moh getting something to help her stand out a little
Post # 11
Those dresses look beautiful! Go ahead and have your MOH wear the different dress. It’ll be nice in photos because she will stand out from the other girls, but in a subtle way.
Here’s a plan for dealing with your mom:
1. In as calm and open a way as possible, let your mom know how stressed she is making you.
2. Give her all of the research you’ve done on various budget areas like stationary and flowers and show her the options and descrcibe what you want.
3.Explain how you desparately need her help, this is your moment of need, you need her support, etc., then…
4. Have her find a way to make it work and report back to you! 😉
Post # 12
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They totally work together!! I actually really like the combo 🙂
Post # 13
thanks ya’ll…I appreciate the feedback. I thought they went well also, but my mom didn’t. I will try to convince her. She’s been great overall, but I get annoyed with somethings when it comes to them “not being good enough” yet I am suppose to stick to the budget ( and btw I think the items I am talking about are fine). I love her though and I appreciate her help. I’m sure she’ll come around, haha. This is the one thing I am finding the hardest to please everyone over..but I think I will stick to the plan of all the reg. bridesmaids in the first, and the moh in the second (the color will actually be eggplant on all the girls). thanks again!
Post # 15
I think you are totally fine to leave the Bms in the first dress, and have MOH in the second dress. Same color, length, and fabric. The dresses are very similar.
As for mom’s budget and not liking what you pick out, can you talk to her about your budget concerns and offer that if invitations are the most important to her, you’ll pool more money into that? But then you’ll pay for your flowers on your own. (Or vice versa. You get the idea.)
Post # 16
I think that it will look great! Especially since she is the MOH…a little something something to distinguish her from the rest of your bridesmaids.