Post # 1
Hi ladies, so my best friend is getting married at the end of September in which I will be 6 months pregnant. Here’s my problem. I received my bridesmaids dress for this wedding in early April. I am nervous because the dress fits perfectly Right now. I know in September it will be way too small. The dress is Amsale G763C in the color dove. I tried googling it to see if its available in a maternity fit and it is not.
I obvioiusly need to talk to the bride about this but have you ever just ordered a BM dress in a couple sizes larger to accomodate your growth? Then have it altered?
Im nervous if I go this route it wont be long enough as its perfect length right now. Im also nervous the top might be too tight and constricting.
Should I order the maternity style of Amsale dress that is similar then see if someone can add the strap and little peplum thing to make it look the rest of the girls? (After talking to the bride obviously).
have you ever been a pregnant BM did it affect your dress?
Any feedback would be appreciated! Thanks!
Post # 3
@lalalalauren: I’ve never been a pregnant bridesmaid, but I will say that at 6 months (I’m 8 months now) I definitely would have needed a maternity dress…I don’t know about ordering a few sizes up, but I’d be afraid it would not fit right in other areas.
FWIW, in the last wedding I was in, we all wore different style dresses in the same color…it was totally cute, so you might not even have to worry about adding the other touches.
Post # 4
I would definitely suggest talking to the bride right away – you could probably order a couple sizes larger and with extra length. Then just have it altered closer to the wedding.
Post # 5
Obviously talk to the bride asap. Are you showing already? There’s a chance that you might not be that big and could just let this dress out. Or I would suggest ordering a size up and finding good cheap seamstress to adjust the areas of the dress that need it.
Post # 6
@tnbellebee: i was thinking the same thing about it not fitting right in other places by ordering up. All the girls already have this dess so the mismatched thing isnt really an option. Im hoping the bride will be ok with me ordering a maternity dress in a similar style also by amsale and then just altering it to look like this dress. Im going to talk to her next week!
@SagHarborBride: unforuntately this dress doesnt come with the option of ordering with extra length.
@MrsDW: im not really showing yet just super bloated and feel fat. I have a feeling i will be huge come sept. so if i do go with ordering up it will have to be at least 2 sizes.
thanks for the input ladies!
Post # 7
Def talk to the bride.. I changed my bridesmaids dress because my friend got pregnant before my wedding and was 8 months pregnant standing in it. Maybe she would want to change the dress to something like this? I thought all my girls looked great in it and it was good different body shapes.
It was chiffon and tighter on the boob area and one shoulder…. I loved it and so did my girls 🙂
Post # 8
@MrsBoomBoom: super cute dresses!! I dont want to ask her to change everyones dress just bc im pregnant/dont think she would want to do that :/ you were an amazing and accomodating bride for doing that!
Post # 9
@lalalalauren: I’m in a very similar situation actually. The wedding I’m in will be in the end of September as well, but I’ll be about 7 months pregnant then. I ended up ordering a few sizes up and I’m hoping with alterations all will be well. I’m thinking now that I probably should have gotten the extra length, but I’m not all that tall to begin with. I’d definitely talk to the bride, and also the place the dresses are being ordered from, as they might be very helpful. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 10
One of my bridesmaids was pregnant at my wedding 🙂 We ordered her dress in a few sizes up and had a good tailor alter it down to her new shape. You definitely want to go bigger rather than smaller – a good tailor can always alter down, but its much harder to let it out if there’s not enough fabric. Check the length on the larger sizes – say you’re a 6 and will be order up three sizes to a 12. The 12 may already have an extra 4 inches in length so you wouldn’t need to order long. If not, you may want to order extra length or extra fabric. Our tailor was able to remake the bust so it fit her perfectly, and I picked a dress that was relaxed through the waist.
One dress shop near me was willing to let me purchase the dress in her current size, so she could wear it after she was pregnant, and they would lend her the dress in a larger size for the wedding. We opted not to do this, because her changing shape would have required alterations no matter what.
Post # 11
@lalalalauren: Yea I know you wouldnt want to ask her that… maybe you can buy a bigger size but you will need to get it tailored to fit your belly also.. you would have to do that last minute though since a belly is always growing 🙂 I hope everything turns out for you 🙂 and thank you! I wanted all my girls to be comfortable and plus they are my girls so I wanted her to be happy also!
Post # 12
and now that I look at the dress it is kind of like mine lol which would be great for a pregnant belly so yea I would order in a bigger size and get it sized to fit you when it gets closer 🙂
Post # 13
My MOH was about 5 months pregnant at my wedding. She wore a different dress but it was similar enough in fabric and length and it was the same color. She looked great!
Post # 14
That dress looks like it would work with a baby bump great if you just ordered a few sizes bigger.
I am going to be 7 months pregnant at my BF’s wedding this summer, and she was not in any way shape or form ready to change her dress selection to something maternity appropriate. The dresses she picked out are short and tight around a waist that comes down far enough that it won’t just allow for a bump underneath. Arggggh. I went to a Motherhood Maternity and tried on one of their “fake” bumps there with the dress to see what size I would probably need. I am normally a size 4 and ended up going with a size 10 and it looked so hideous on me with the fake pregnant belly, but the bride thought it looked fine so I guess I don’t have much of a say in it. I am praying that I fit into it closer to the wedding and I will have my mom make any last-minute alterations (minus adding more fabric..if it doesn’t fit, I don’t know what I will do).
It kind of sucks because you KNOW the wedding is not about you at all, but in the same sense you just kind of wish the bride would accomodate for you being pregnant. It’s hard for me to understand because I let my BMs pick out their own dresses in a shade of a color I had and they each ended up with something that was flattering on them and their body type. My friend insists that we all must look the same, so I will be rocking the most hideous dress ever waddling down the aisle 7+ months pregnant. CAN’T WAIT! Ohh the things we do for friends hahaha.
Post # 15
Before you spend more money on another dress, I’d try taking it to a good seamstress and finding out what they can do to accomodate it either by adding in extra material or a panel at the sides.
I am going to be 7 months pregnant in my BFF’s wedding this Sept as well and am in a similar predicament, except we have the dresses already … they were discontinued and I can’t order another one. It’s short, size small and well… i just don’t know how it’s going to work. I plan on taking it to a seamstress and asking them what they can do as far as extra material goes. Sometimes they can add in more material at the front to accomodate a bump and put in an elastic panel in the sides to help too.
Keep us posted! 🙂
Post # 16
At least you have the option of ordering a larger size. My recommendation would be to speak with the bride as soon as you feel comfortable sharing the news. I placed my bridesmaid order in a month before I found out I was pregnant. I’m suppose to be 7+ months at my friend’s wedding. So now I have to get extra material (which is three different types of material since the dress is layered) and then get alterations done. In total an EXTRA $180. Ughh. Oh well. I hope in the end the seamstress will make me look at least half decent.