Post # 1
I custom ordered my dress from Dolly Couture about a month ago (won’t be in until June) and since then I’ve been obsessing over whether I will like it or not. It’s going to be similar to this one (photo below), but in a champagne color with ivory polka dot overlay (very me!) with an A-line, longer skirt and a black, thinner sash. My wedding(s; i’m having two – one on each coast) are both garden party style, so I think the tea-length is perfect. Plus I’m a ‘recovered’ goth/alternative kind of person, so the quirkiness of it fits me.
But I’m nervous that the dress isn’t elegant enough! Maybe I won’t feel fabulous in it, I’ll only feel cute! And maybe FI will be disappointed I’m not more elegant. (He’s turning out to be awfully traditionalist over the whole thing, after for years he’s sworn he just wanted to go to the courthouse).
So today I’m going to David’s Bridal with future little SIL. I’m nervous! What if I love something? I hope I hate it all so I don’t have to decide. But worst case scenario I find something else I love and sell the custom dress on Ebay, or maybe I wear one dress to each event (again, I have two). I would just feel terrible though because my very very frugal mother spent $800 on my custom dress…
I really regret not doing more research for a dress before buying it, but everyone (friends and family) is telling me to just make the wedding decisions as quickly as possible, that nothing will be perfect or exactly what I want, and that the most important thing is to just plan the wedding with as little stress as possible and that the details aren’t important. Plus my wedding(s) are in August so it’s not like I have much time to deliberate.
I know many of you have had dress regrets. Has anyone had to resell a custom dress? Has anyone had good luck finding a ‘quirky’ dress at David’s Bridal? Any tips on to how make David’s Bridal a pain-free experience?
Post # 2
Gwendolyn88: It’s up to you, but personally I would wait until your dress comes in. I ordered a custom polka-dot from Dolly Couture and had the same worries, but let me tell you I felt and still felt that I looked very elegant and not just cute. There really is a huge difference in just wearing the gown, and wearing the gown the day of with your hair all done up/jewelry on/makeup to the max…. Really it’s up to you, but I doubt you’d find much quirkiness at DB…..
Here’s my dress when it was all said & done with….
Post # 3
Hi yes! I have your photos saved on my computer. 🙂 🙂 You were the one who turned me on to Dolly Couture! I OBSESSED over the details. I’m still not sure about my petticoat color. I ordered ‘natural” net petticoat for now, but might get a pink one later. I’m glad you had such a fabulous experience. I’m so nervous I’m going to be disappointed!! Thanks for the words of comfort. 🙂
I’m hoping to hate all the white poofies tonight and that it will reinforce my decision. Or maybe I will pick one that would be a good backup in case I do hate it?
Post # 4
ps. Becky, I’m not sure I was clear with my response, but you should know that I love your dress and think you look gorgeous in it! 🙂
Post # 5
Gwendolyn88: Yeah, it’s a stressful experience since you’ve never really tried on the dress before- I was a wreck thinking it would just be cute and not elegant or “adult” feeling enough. I get now what you are trying to do at DB- it sounded more like you were hoping to find something else quirky there, and I was worried you may be very disappointed. I tried on a few dresses at our local shop (similar to a DB) and all their quirky dresses weren’t really all that quirky or unique in my opinion…. Good luck!!!! =)
Post # 6
No harm in just going there to try out a few dresses, it’s great that you’ll do something fun with your FSIL!
I got my dress from DB (http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Cap-Sleeve-Wedding-Dress-with-Illusion-Neckline-CMK513_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Designer-Oleg-Cassini) and my tip would be that you check out the website before going, so that you have an idea of what you would want to try on. I knew I wanted to try this dress, but described my wedding (outdoors, forest, remote) to my consultant and she kept pulling out totally inappropriate dresses (no, I’m not going to wear a bandage, mermaid dress with a train in a place where there ground is covered in blueberries). Helped to have a style number to give her when I was out of patience!
Post # 7
BeckyS0: your dress is absolutely beautiful! I love it!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
BeckyS0: Wow, you rocked that dress!! Love the whole look!
Gwendolyn88: I like your dress and definitely your choice of hair/shoes/accessories will complete the look. I agree you should wait to see it in person.
Post # 9
I think your dress sounds gorgeous, and it sounds like something I considered. However, I ruled out a shorter dress because my DH said he felt a wedding dress should be long. I’m mentioning this because you were suprised by your FI’s traditionalist leanings, and I was quite surprised that my DH had this opinion about short dresses. His only other comment/suggestion for my dress was that it should be ‘booby’! 😉
Anyway, I’m not mentioning this to stress you out more or anything, just because you mentioned being concerned about your FI’s opinion on the dress.
Other than that, as I saw, I love you proposed dress, and think it totally works for a garden party.
Also, and I can’t believe I’m the first to say this – Two weddings, two dresses? 😉
Post # 10
Gwendolyn88: Your dress sounds amazing! I almost got an avila bay from dolly couture as well for my garden party wedding but ended up getting a tea length dress on etsy instead (much cheaper). I felt fabulous in mine but did worry for a while that maybe I would regret not getting a long dress. I think you should go with whatever makes you feel like you rather than what you think other people expect. I suspect that when your dolly dress arrives you will be very happy
Post # 11
Well, I did it! I went to David’s Bridal last night and tried on all the white poofies. It wasn’t too bad an experience because I went at 8pm at night so there was only one other girl there and it was quiet and not a big deal. (My future SIL was NO help at all though and actually got DRUNK while I was there, but that’s a whole other story!!)
I was suprised though, I did like the longer gowns on me and felt very elegant and bridal in them. I actually liked this one very VERY much!!! (sorry so small). http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Lace-A-line-Gown-with-Side-Split-YP3344_Bridal-Gowns-Shop-By-Price-Bridal-Gowns-$400-$799.99
So I was really stuck for a bit thinking I was about to buy another $800 dress when I already bought one!! I felt like this one felt so good on and I felt so fabulous in it. But really, two $800 is just a bit over the top for little old me.
So when I got home I told FI I didn’t know what to do, that I had already ordered a “whimsical” dress but now had found a more elegant dress and I asked what his expectations were. He said he wanted me to look different and not like a cookie-cutter bride. He would rather I look more quirky and original. So that made me feel better about my pink polka-dot dress from Dolly Couture! 🙂
I’ve decided I’m going to wait and see how my custom dress looks and then I have this as a backup (in the back of my mind) in case I decide I hate it. (They said I can order off the internet and have it in 7 to 10 business days).
Thanks for your support!!!
1 decision down, $7,865,432 to go. 😛
Post # 12
I just wanted to chime in! I have a dress from Dolly too, and I too, felt that while it’s very “ME” and quirky, it’s not elegant and I don’t feel “GORGEOUS” in it. I feel “pretty” and “cute,” but not womanly, or amazing. Honestly… I still haven’t shaken that feeling, unfortunately. But my wedding is in 8 days, so I have no choice. *shrugs* :\
I’m getting a wider sash for it, (I tried getting it tailored and the tailor said there was NOTHING she could do, because “that’s just how the dress is made”…) so I’m hoping a thicker sash will help pull-in some of the fabric that’s hanging off of my body making me look double-wide: