I'm going to end the relationship. (Cross necklace spinoff).

posted 3 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 I wish you luck and I think its for the best for both of you. But…..you closed both of those threads, why are you opening up a brand new one?

Post # 4
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@EmilyInIdaho:  so….you aren’t willing to become a Christian for him and from the sounds of it he hasn’t actually pressured you to, but you’ll leave him because he won’t become an Athiest? Personally I think that’s BS and if you two love each other and he’s a good man, this whole cross incident isn’t a reason to just end everything. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

@EmilyInIdaho:  Are you looking for more opinions? or just wanting to get that off your chest.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow! What a sad escalation from something that was intended to be so thoughtful. I guess if you truly feel that strongly about this issue you’re doing the right thing, and the obvious inability to co-exist with him surely brings up the question of whether this is the best possible decision for you both, but man I feel for him because I think he is going to be blindsided.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

@EmilyInIdaho:  Do what makes you happy. Having the same religion as my husband is great. There’s no fighting about where to go on Sunday mornings – the dog park.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t understand how this wasn’t laid out on the table at the beginning of the relationship. In fact, you defended him multiple times saying he would never push anything on you, that you both understand eachother, even have plans for kids.

 

I feel bad for him.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@EmilyInIdaho:  I think it’s better to realize it now rather than later.  I personally could never be with someone that was Christian just because our views would be so different.  I can totally understand where you’re coming from.  Best of luck!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@TattedNYBride:  +1

I’m confused about this. It seems as though he has never pushed this on you and you even had plans for kids. I feel a bit bad for him as well. Are there other issues you guys are having?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@EmilyInIdaho:  It seems like you’ve been having doubts/insecurities about this guy for a few weeks now. Your decision is probably for the best. Good luck – breakups can be so rough no matter who initiates it.

Post # 14
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh, no- I feel terrible for him.  From your other threads, he seemed 100% thoughtful and gentle and never like he was trying to convert you- just like he was trying to protect you in a way that he believed in.  If you think this is the right thing for you, then do it- it’s good to be confident in one’s decisions and it sounds like you are.  But I’m sure he will be very suprised and heartbroken. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@TattedNYBride:  +100!

Although your FI seemed like he was laidback about his Christian faith, it is sad that you couldn’t seem to accept this part of him. Religious differences can be overcome, but it doesn’t seem like you were willing to compromise on anything.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Based on your previous posts, it seems like you just can’t accept the fact that he has a different belief system-even if he has no intentions of pushing it on you. You want him to understand your beliefs, but are unwilling to respect his (and believing them and respecting them are two very different things). Neither of you are going to change-so if you can’t co-exist then yes. breaking up probably makes the most sense.

Good luck finding someone who shares your beliefs.

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