Post # 1
So, my FI and I fell in love with a venue and unfortunately the person in charge of rentals currently has shingles and isn’t at work and no one is really filling in for her so its just slightly impossible to get a response. But when she finally got back to me about the date that I have my heart set on (9-10-11) she said another bride had “inquired” about it (not put a deposit down) and she wanted to wait to get a response from her first. Well, I responded with if it is available please let me know because I’m very interested and I haven’t heard back (that was a week ago).
Then last night after meeting with a caterer (who will be MY caterer because she’s amazing and she’s basically a preferred caterer at EVERY venue within an hour of where I live) she convinced me I should definitely consider another venue, that she gets the feeling it will be perfect for me. Well I call today, and my FI and I were actually able to run over during lunch and we LOVE this place too (but love it even more because it is WAY less expensive and we can supply our own alcohol making it THAT much cheaper) and guess what; another bride had already inquired about that location too, and he wants to give her a chance to make up her mind before letting us put a deposit down!!!!
I’m going crazy! Since when does “inquiring” reserve a date for you? I’M READY TO WRITE A CHECK AND THESE VENUES ARE SAYING NO! Is this normal?
Post # 3
I think that’s common practice. I’ve inquired with venues/vendors and they all “pencil me in.” If another couple is interested, the vendor/venue will contact me and tell me to make a decision.
Still sucks though, but I’m sure you will find something great!
Post # 4
@Angela83: If that’s the case, when should I just give up? Like, the longer I wait the less likely it will be that I will be able to find a place that I love that’s available for the date I’m obsessed with (9-10-11 is gonna go fast) and I don’t want to settle for something else and then find out the bride who had “inquired” about my top choice decided they didn’t want their wedding there and I could have had that.
Post # 5
I think this is fairly normal; however, all of the vendors I worked with would contact the other inquirer and give them 24 hours to make a decision.
I had this happen to me twice on the other end, I got called because a second person inquired and I gave up both vendors.
And I had it happen to me from your side – I fell in love with a photog and he had to make sure inquirer number 1 wasn’t interested before I could put my deposit down. Luckily she wasn’t interested.
I think it is more common courtesy of first come first serve than anything else. Lets say you were the first to inquire with this venue and then went home to sleep on it for a couple days. Decide that you are going to go with them and they tell you “sorry someone else put down a deposit while you were thinking about it”. You would be pissed that they didn’t call you to let you know someone else was interested, right?
I hope this other bride was just inquiring and isn’t interested in your venue!
Post # 6
Keep looking at other places. But I would also keep in contact with your top 2 venues… make it clear that you are ready to put down a deposit to lock in the date. Maybe that will get them to put the pressure on the first bride. Good luck!
Post # 7
Just to let everyone know I ended up getting the venue of my choice (the second, less expensive one).
The person in charge of rentals called the other bride and left her a voicemail saying she had 24 hours to get back to him with a response since another couple was interested and she just never returned his phone call. So now we’ll be going to sign a contract and put down a deposit. I’m officially getting married on 9-10-11 and I couldn’t be happier!
And just an FYI, it’ll be at the Children’s Museum of Pittsburgh (sounds cheesey but it’s the coolest venue) you can find pictures here (its the Grand Hall, aka the room with the huge white hanging lanterns and the red walls):
Post # 8
CONGRATS! Such a good feeling when you get the venue you want!
Post # 9
Oh, cool! That’s where Miss Octopus is getting married, and I love the pictures she put up.