Post # 1
There’s just so much to do still and I don’t know who’s gonna do it. It’s mostly the day-of stuff that I worry about.
Like who’s gonna put the bouts on the guys? I asked FMIL last night if she could arrive early to do that and she said she didn’t want to show up early. I asked other people and they are like, “I think the guys can do it themselves”. Umm, no I don’t think so. These are guys that don’t even know how to tie a tie. How will they know that the bout goes over the button hole and that it is pinned from behind? And how will they actually do that themselves?
My mom freaks me out all the time by saying stuff like “Who’s gonna watch the gifts, they are going to get stolen. Cards get stolen all the time.” And “what if the flowers aren’t delivered, they have to get to the right place.” Then I say, well my purse is going to be left out all night, is someone going to steal that too? And she thinks that someone WILL actually take it and that I shouldn’t bring a purse with my camera and phone in it.
And then everything else is pissing me off too. Caterer was supposed to send the final bill today. He did, but it was all wrong. The fees on there were old ones and he way overcharged us. Then he never mentioned that there was $1/person charge for wine glasses. And we have to have that charge for every person even though like 20 people are underage and many elderly guests won’t drink wine. Freaking extra “surprise” fees are making me so mad. We don’t have any money for this!
Then I’ve been trying to get ahold of the caterer all day now and he keeps telling me he sent the quote to my email but it has never showed up. he sent one email without any attachments even!
Additionally, my venue was supposed to email me the map showing the layout of the tables today so that I can give it to all the other vendors who need to decorate and lay out placecards. The venue never sent it and I even sent them a reminder email this morning asking for it! Now I won’t be able to get it out to everyone else this weekend!
jeez, I don’t need all this right now. I just want to be relaxed for the wedding day next weekend but it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen. I’m not even excited at all for this and everyone is all surprised and like “oh you should be excited, it’s so close”. Well don’t they realize they all suck all the excitement right out of me? Am I just too sensitive or something?
Post # 3
is there anyway you can get a doc or a friend who is not in the wedding party to help you out the day of?
Post # 4
i’ve got two friends who will help set up the placecards and gift table stuff at the reception. But I could tell they were already not too thrilled about that and I don’t want to ask them to do more.
I guess I could try to ask more people to help. But I don’t have that many close friends and people are always all annoyed when I ask them to help at all.
Post # 5
The time is sneaking up on us.
I would mention to the caterer that the $1.00 per/glass fee was not in the original BEO. We are paying extra to have real glasses and it is $1.00 per glass but plastic glasses were included. Maybe since it was not in the original BEO it can be waived.
That is bad news about the diagram. Sorry to hear that. We were given ours months ago and we had it rearranged after our final guest count with a turn around in about 24 hours for the new diagram. Do you not have one coordinator for you venue that you deal with that can address this issue?
As far as security does the venue offer any? We had to pay a security fee at our venue which help eliminates some of the issues your mother is bringing up. Perhaps you should ask about security. Do you have a bridal room at the venue that can only be accessed by the bridal party?
You are not to sensitive you like me just want to have everything done the weekend before the wedding and just enjoy your wedding day.
Post # 6
Another note the coordinator at the venue is setting up our place cards and favors maybe you could find out if your venue offers that service with your rental.
Post # 7
Weee… relax =) I am the weekend after you!!!!!!!! Congrats. Everything will be ok.
Post # 8
the venue does have security. but that is to protect themselves – to guard their artwork and prevent unwanted people from coming in. That wouldn’t help my mother any, she thinks it is the staff that will steal!
The coordinator at our venue is something else. She’s been terrible to us ever since she got the job back in January and the lady we had signed with was fired. She’s the last person I’d trust with putting out decorations and placecards. I had asked her about their staff doing that sort of stuff one time, and she said that we had to have a family member, friend, or DOC do that. That the venue wouldn’t do it. She said we could pay extra to rent the room beginning early in the morning so that I could come in and put those things out! yeah right!
Post # 9
I would try to get a friend to play DOC for the day! Take a deep breath and PLEASE don’t have a panic attack. i had my first one EVER a couple of weeks ago and it was the most horrible thing I’ve ever experienced.
Post # 10
Ok – so maybe you don’t have any close friends, but do you know anyone well enough to ask them to be a DOC and pay them something for doing it? You could make a list of everything that needs to be done that day and the time table and then all they would have to do is make it happen – if they do it well, give them a little extra and if not, just give them what you agreed on. Unless you can afford to get a DOC? Where do you live and I’ll come take care of everything for you! Maybe THAT should have been my “what I would do if I didn’t have to work” post!