I'm happy I didn't get anything for Valentine's Day, am I the only one like this

posted 2 weeks ago in Holidays
  • poll: What do you and your spouse do for Valentine's Day?
    The usual cards, flowers, chocolates : (24 votes)
    22 %
    Dinner and/or a movie : (12 votes)
    11 %
    Celebrate at home : (19 votes)
    17 %
    We don't do anything special : (55 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 2
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I think valentines is overrated personally. I do not want flowers because he feels obligated to buy them, because they have zero meaning that way!

    We just skip the silly traditions altogether.

    Post # 3
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    5945 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    kathrynmarisam2017 :  If I see flowers in my house I assume its because Mr. 99 broke something…its a strange occurrence and then I neglect them and they mummify on the mantle until spiders start making webs in their crispy little petals and he has to throw them away because I’m scared of what’s lliving inside of it.

    We aren’t the most romantic couple on Earth but we do have a pretty passionate relationship and one that is very comfortable and understanding – so I’m a fan without getting a heart shaped box of candy or a stuffed bear one of my dogs will inevitably chew up.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t mind the usual stuff like flowers and some candy, but I definitely don’t get upset either if he doesn’t buy them. We’ve been together since I was 19 and it was fun when we were young but I don’t care for it as much now. 

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We don’t do any of that stuff either and I genuinely don’t miss it.  Honestly, we don’t even do that kind of thing for our anniversary.

    Gifts really don’t mean anything to either of us and we both get really stressed out about having to choose gifts for others so we’re both delighted to skip that.  We already do so many fun things together that we tend to always have something special planned around v-day or our b-days or our anniversary without even trying to match it to that event.  For example, we had already planned a weekend away since we both have President’s day off.  So we’ll call that a valentines day celebration and call it good.

    That said, I do think we are a little lame with how anitclimatic we are.  I always think that we should build some sort of tradition but each year when it comes up it just never seems that important.  This year DH was away for the night due to work on v-day and honestly it doesn’t really matter to me.  It’s just another day.

    That said, we do like flowers!  We just buy them all the time at the grocery store or farmers market to decorate the house.  It’s not a special occasion thing for us.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We always stay home. We went out one year and hated it! Way too crowded. My husband always makes my favorite pasta dish for me and I usually make some sort of dessert. Sometimes we watch a movie if there’s something on Netflix or binge watch a few episodes of whatever show we are watching at the time. We never do gifts, it just seems unnecessary – I’m not big on chocolate or flowers and we tend to be pretty minimalist so I don’t want some trinket and I don’t wear jewelry.

    This year he had a ton homework so just did dinner and that was it. 

    Oh and usually we have sex but I was on my period this year.

    Post # 7
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    52 posts
    Worker bee

    BF and I both like giving gifts a lot so we agree to get eachother something small on Vday (we both spend approx the same amount of money) – we agreed to an under $30 limit and cook a special meal together at home. 

    Both of our attitudes were “hey, we like celebrating love” so why not – we cook special meals together a lot so it’s not a huge deal and the gifts are something we both like doing. I think if the stress ever got to be too much or we were in a financially tough time we could always cut it out. BF doesn’t really get me flowers because he knows I’m not super into them (I just think they’re more work than they’re worth haha)

    Post # 8
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    Worker bee

    kathrynmarisam2017 :  I love the flowers and chocolate and dinners as long as they are not for valentines only. I’d rather have an ordinary evening  for valentines (especially since it was beginning of the work week) and be treated like a queen the rest of the year

    thid year we didn’t do anything as I was sick and he was looking after me but we are having a valentines weekend this weekend

    Post # 9
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    Blushing bee

    I got flowers, a gift, and I got him chocolate, we had dinner at a nice(r) restaurant and later we got urselves some more chocolate (the ladder is not any different from any other day, we aalllwaaays eat chocolate. lol). 🙂 

    Pretty standard, for us. I think we both like and apprechiate doing something special at Valentines. But then again, we love all kinds of special days. Especially me. And he likes making me happy, so, we really take every chance we get to “celebrate” a little extra. 🙂 lol.

    Post # 10
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    Newbee

    This year my partner and I celebrated at home. We decided to go to the supermarket once we finished work, when we got there they didn’t have what we wanted so we ended up making in from scratch. Instead of him doing it for me we did it together without arguing or breaking anything 😄

    We don’t do gifts as we think it should be celebrated everyday we did do a card though. 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    DH and I used to kind of celebrate Valentine’s Day in the early years (we started dating at 16 so I think it was more that we felt like we had to lol) but very rarely since finishing high school. This year we grabbed fish and chips for dinner because we both got stuck at work and left way later than normal.

    Plus, Valentine’s Day is my dad’s birthday so we’re usually doing something to celebrate him.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We ordered food and snuggled on the couch. This is pretty much what we do every week haha. We celebrate love everyday. I don’t neee one day of love. 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We don’t really do anything special, but we made a point to cook a nice dinner at home together. I picked up some champagne, and he brought me home cupcakes 🙂 Nothing super crazy, but it was nice to add a little “specialness” to an otherwise ordinary weeknight. I personally couldn’t imagine going out — it’s such a zoo everywhere on v-day!

    Post # 15
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    626 posts
    Busy bee

    We ordered sushi and drank champagne. DH usually sends flowers to my work but security is so insane in my new office that it would involve showing ID, picking them up myself at the messenger center, and then carrying them home on the train and I wanted to do none of that. 

    I told DH not to do anything at all because I don’t care but still picked up flowers on his way home from work. Our last name is a very common flower and he loves being able to buy me bouquets of them whenever possible. 

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