Post # 1
I’m having a bunch of anxiety attacks about getting married in less than 20 days. Not cold feet. I have no doubts about who I’m marrying. I have a ton of stuff to still get done before then and very little time and very full time already. My bridesmaids and family aren’t much help since they live over 2 hours away. My fiance is helping me but I don’t think it’s all going to get done. I know that if things don’t get done I’ll be the only one who notices but I still would like to finish everything to fit my vision and relieve some confusion from guests and vendors… I’m just really stressed and don’t know how to fix it all
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Start by making a list of the things you have left to accomplish. If you can, rate them in order of priority. Then just start working down the list.
Best of luck! Remember, the planning experience is all what you make of it. 🙂
Post # 3
Thanks. I’ve been fine this whole way until I realized I only have less than 20 days left this weekend and people keep reminding me now how much I have left to do and and how little time I have to do it in and it’s stressing me out and my fiance keeps going wehave tons of time, don’t worry about it today… we also work alot of hours during the week and other things to do over the weekends ( some is wedding related, some is for his cousin’s wedding which is the week after us and some isn’t wedding related at all) also did I mention I’m terrified of speaking in front of people? I keep thinking about how I’m going to have to stand in front of people watching me and I already start shaking… I don’t like being the center of attention for a reason…
Post # 4
Step 1. Breathe! Everything will be ok. As LMD said, make a list of everything (literally – everything) you need to do. Think realistically about what you have time to do. Is there anything on there that you could live without? Are there things on there that can wait til after the wedding? Is everything on the list worth your worry and stress? If not, remove it. Now, stick the list to your fridge and cross things off as you go. Also get your FI to pick a couple and see if he can cross some off too. The simple action of crossing things off should be a great stress-reliever for you.
Step 2. Make room at the top of the list for an hour of “me time”. Book in for a massage, go for a lovely walk, or watch a movie in bed with a bowl of popcorn. Switch off your phone and just relax.
And I totally hear you about speaking in front of people. I was terrified too! Can you speak to your celebrant about it? I had a chat to mine and she made me feel completely at ease. Remember:
- The people who will be listening are your closest friends and family. They aren’t waiting for you to make a mistake. They are happy for you and happy to be there.
- You are saying the words to your FI, no-one else. Look him in the eyes and try to block out everyone else.
- Try to concentrate on the meaning of the words you are saying, rather than how you say them.
- No-one is expecting perfect delivery – if you make a mistake, have a giggle and move on.
Most of all, take care of yourself and try to have fun 🙂