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    taranixon    April 17, 2010  

    Ugh!!  I've had my dress for several months now, and at first I loved it.  Now....I feel like I hate it :-(  Does anyone else have this problem?  It's a very pretty dress, I just feel like maybe I made my decision too soon.  I see all these other dresses that I think are so much better and it's really got me down.  Please tell me this is normal, and that I'll get over it and end up loving my dress again :-(

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    First of all, STOP looking at other dresses.  No good can come of that, really.  I think what you are experiencing is totally normal.  I mean, it's so difficult to pick just one dress out of an infinite possibility.  Try to remember why you chose the dress that you did.

     
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    mrskesslertobe    September 18, 2010  

    I feel that way on almost a daily basis. Everyone here has such pretty dress they post. then I go through all of the puctures in the dresses I tried on and it reminds me not all of those gorgeous dresses looked gorgeous on me.

    It is completely normal to have doubts. Every day I VOW not to look at any more dresses, but I can't help my self.

     
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    PennyDreadful    September 25, 2010   Northern VA

    I agree, it's perfectly normal. When there are literally thousands of dresses floating before your eyes it's hard not to get the "dress is shinier over there" doubts.

    If you loved your dress when you bought it. Stop shopping around.

    It's like men, even your perfect man can start to look a little dumpy when held in comparison to dozens of others every day.

    So go..fall back in love with your dress ;-)

     
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    futuredrbraun    May 15, 2010  

    You are definitely going to love your original dress...esp on your wedding day when you have your look all together :) I think that almost every bride questions her decisions about the dress at one point or another (I know that I definitely did) so you are completely normal. Just remember the reasons that you originally fell in love with your gown and think about how wonderful you are going to look on your wedding day!!!

     
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    Rhiannonbs      

    What is your dress!? I am having the same problem....it's sucky haha ughhh email me back and we can chat!!! rhiannonbandascott@gmail.com

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I think it is pretty normal.  I had second thoughts about my dress as well.  I thought I had chosen it too quickly and that it just wasn't right.  But in the end, it was beautiful and perfect for my wedding!  I think you just need to stop looking at other dresses because that sort of thing will make you crazy!

     
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    eryepye    March 27, 2010   Seattle, married in Portland

    It's normal, don't worry.  I think everyone goes through it because you only get to pick one and there are soooo many beautiful ones to choose from!  One of the ladies on Say Yes to the Dress said something along the lines of, 'think of your dress selection like your fiance, once you found him, you stopped looking.'  You just have to trust that you picked the right one and know you will be gorgeous on your day!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I am having the same issue.  I went to help a friend find a dress and there were so many that I like better than mine.  I don't hate my dress, I just don't have that 'feeling' about it.  I'm hoping I'll love it again when I put it on on my wedding day.  I'm sure you will too.

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    Add me to the list!

     
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    WDWBride    March 3, 2010   Walt Disney World

    Lol this was me too!! Once I purchased my dress I panicked that it didn't fit our venue. I went back and tried on more and realized I had made the right decision in the first place!

     
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    hyp3r247      

    I am going through the same thing. I bought my dress a month later I was engaged...and I still have about 7 months to go til my wedding day. I keep thinking of the "what if"s and that my dress is not as "perfect" as I thought. However, after reading everyone's comments, I feel at peace. I think we just need to remind ourselves that the most important part of the wedding is ,besides the bride looking fabulous, that it is the day when you and your fiance proclaim the love for one another. I think that is more beautiful than the dress itself. :) 

    I hope you fall in love with your dress ALL OVER AGAIN!

     
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    carebearbrite    September 10, 2011   Cleveland, OH

    I hate my dress as well. But I'm stuck with it. For some reason, I liked the way it looked as a sample, but when I got mine I felt extremely unattractive in it. It just looks horrid. I know <WHAAA> right? LOL.

     
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    Miss Sparklespaniel    November 13, 2010   VIC, Australia

    If you've already got a dress the best thing you can do is avoid other dresses at all costs. My best friend had her aunt make her dress and when we were getting fitted for our BM dresses at a bridal shop she tried on a wedding dress for giggles. Giggles soon turned to a flood of tears when she LOVED the dress she tried on and realised she couldn't have it cos her aunt had already spent so much time making her dress. She was heartbroken and had a mini break down to me about it. Turns out all of the elements she loved about it - the neckline, big skirt with a slight train - were in her dress anyway and after having her dress fitted to her she loved it! Best to avoid the stress of comparing dresses - I'm sure you'll try on your dress again and love it!

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    See? Almost everyone has dress doubts.

    1. Stop looking at dresses.  Even on here.

    2. Have faith in your gut decision.

     

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