Post # 1
Im in a ldr nearly 2 years now. My bf is preparing for getting into graduate school while I have my job in another country. We are now many many miles away. 🙁
He has currently back to his home country which internet is very expensive there and it is not unlimited data. I cannot talk to him every day especially he is very busy with publishing paper and he works very very hard. As he is a student, I do not want to add financial burden for the expensive internet data, so I tried to limit the talk over internet.
Well, I know he loves me, even he is busy, he tried to contact me, even just a few minute or text.
He is waiting for graduate school to accept him, so the situation is a bit tough now, it seems like it does not have an exact time/schedule.
I start to develop new hobby, when I am so into that new hobby, it can make me forget the current situation a bit, but Im also worry if I dont contact him constantly, it will make us fall apart.
Im trying to be strong, before, I always cried, now Im a lot better but I still feel being far apart from my bf is very hard.
How can sister bees survive that?
Post # 3
@beepbee: I know how you feel! I have been in a LDR before with ex-boyfriends and it is really hard! Can your boyfriend maybe buy a cheap mobile phone so you can call him? That way he would not have to spend much on the internet (aside from the phone) and you could keep in touch. I tried working a lot to keep my mind of the heartache of not being able to be with my then boyfriend. Also, meet up with friends, go out, keep going… Is there any way you could take some time off and visit your boyfriend in his home country?
Post # 4
Thanks alaha. he has a smartphone. I didnt call him so much as phone bill on my side could be quite high, nearly 2usd a minute if i use from telecommunication providers. I try skype pc to phone option but the quality is not so good although it might cost less. But yes it is also good idea to call him. I try to keep my expediture as little as I could so later I can save up a flight ticket to visit him.
As his parents doesnt approve our relationship, its not so easy to visit him. Even I cannot send gift to his home. We can only meet up in some countries between us. It might take up some cost for both of us. Since I still need to pay off my student loan and support my family, I try hard to have balance on saving money for visiting him later and my monthly expenditure.
Now I eat very little to save money lol, just to add penny by penny. I am just like a kid that wants to save money for buying her toy. Even I walk to home after work. It took me like more than an hour. lol
I want to get a higher pay job but I am afraid if I switch job and I dun do well for my new job. It may left me unemployment finally. Then at that time I may make us a big trouble even I dun have chance to afford anything. Am I too pessimistic?