- 6 years ago
So, my FI and I have been engaged for a little over a year. And our wedding is getting closer and closer and we are locked into contracts and we CANT PAY THEM! We are getting married in a very expensive part of the country and when we got engaged and first started planning, our financial situation was very different. FI and I both had great jobs! However, we didnt save much of our money from working. We went on trips, bought each other lavish presents, etc. and now we are in huge trouble financially! I lost my job and FI decided to go back to get his Masters and is no longer working either. I have been trying for months and have no luck getting another job!
So…our wedding is going to be the death of us financially. I am so worried we are not going to be able to pay the people we are in contracts with! We paid 5,000 just for the reception place- no food, chairs, speakers, tables, anything else. I bought a very expensive dress! We are spending 30,000 on food! We already sent out save the dates before all this money trouble started and invited close to 300 people! We cannot even afford to pay for our honeymoon right now- which is SOO important to FI!
That being said, I am so depressed about having just a “mediocre” wedding. Please dont judge me for saying this, I am just being honest with my feelings and not trying to be mean or hurt anyone else. I just thought to get the best and most helpful advice I should be completely honest. I want really nice flowers! I want chair covers because they add SO much! I want unique lighting! I want unique food! I want people to remember our wedding as amazing. My thoughts are why would I spend 30,000 on a wedding I hate when I can spend a bit more on a wedding I adore. When it gets to that much money, what’s the difference anyway, right?! but now, I am regretting this and all the contracts and wish I just had a beach wedding in Hawaii with only our closest friends.
Another issue is all of our friends are expecting everything to be beyond amazing. We have told them some things we are doing, so now if we do not do them, they are going to know about it and notice the absense. We just dont know what to do. We need some ideas of how to get more money (we already have 20,000 taken out in credit cards and NO ONE will give us a loan bc we arent working). We need about 30,000 more dollars, not including our rings or honeymoon. We are in such bad shape! I feel that everything went overboard and really fast. I seriously feel depressed about it!
Sorry this is so long, I do not know what to do and I am so embarrased that we got in this situation in the first place. As my dad always says, i have champagne taste on a beer budget. Here are our thoughts on saving so far that wont take away from our real “look” and “feel” of the wedding. Please let me know any other ideas or what you think of the ones we have come up and if you have any more ideas of how to come up with more money?
1. Do a honeymoon registry to get money for that
2. Cut down the food. Right now we have desert in there, which we do not need!
3. Do basic alcohol, no top shelf anything.
4.?? please help me think of some ways to cut that wont change our look and feel. Thank you everybody so much!