Post # 1
I have only been engaged for a little over a week. I am stressing about everything. My main worry is getting the date I want. We are hoping for memorial day sunday of 2012 (because of the weather, and hoping its cheaper b/c its a sunday). Everyone is telling me I better start booking soon because this date gets taken fast. I want to plan everything, but until i choose the reception hall I feel like I can’t relax. This is the most stressful part b/c especially in NYC its the ppp is sooo expensive! I worry over money, on how we will manage to save enough to pay for this thing. I have had “the runs” 2x this week, and yesterday a mysterious rash that broke out and spread on the back of my forearms near my elbows. I am breaking out with acne on my face, when my skin has been so clear lately. All I do all day long is think wedding, wedding, wedding. I am only “present” at work when I have students in my office. Other than that I am doing wedding research when I should be working. Is this normal?????? I dunno if i can go on like this till the wedding!
Post # 3
Most venues will only let you book one year in advance, so if you go by that timeline you still have a few months to choose a venue or two that you like. Maybe the date is important to get, but try and be flexible. If you don’t get the date, it’s not the end of the world. Don’t get too set on it until you DO have a venue!
I think a lot of people get caught up in the details – please don’t! That will make your experience that much LESS enjoyable. It’s fine and dandy to research, but not in a way that is having a negative effect on other areas of your life.
It will all work itself out; freaking out for over a year is not going to help. 🙂
Post # 4
@AmeliaBedelia: apparently here brides book upto 2 yrs in advance even! crazy!!! i am somewhat flexible on that date, i just want springish weather or even early fall. Just wanted that date because most venues offer huge discounts b/c its a sunday. i know ure right, and i’m normally not this crazy, thats why im so concerned. i guess im worried that im so worried!
Post # 5
@AmeliaBedelia: I was able to hold my venue a lot earlier than one year. 🙂 I guess I was lucky!
Post # 6
Once you get your date and venue picked out, you’ll feel a lot better. (I still have mini-freak outs about paying for the wedding, but my Fiance always calms me down.) The most stressful part for me was trying to figure out how much I HAD to spend on the wedding and trying to pick a date/venue.
A lot of venues don’t give the Sunday discount on holiday weekends…
Trust me, you’ll feel MUCH better once you pick out a place. 🙂
Also, if you’re concerned about cost and not DEFINATELY set on NYC, think about New Jersey. My friend had a great wedding at one of the banquet places out there (that was GORGEOUS) and had everything included (AMAZING cocktail hour with TONS of food, great food, open bar all night, huge dessert room, etc) for the same price as it would have been in NYC for just dinner and a 1 hour open bar. ALSO, if you can pay in cash, a lot of the NY/NJ places negotiate, I hear…
(My friend then rented a bus to take guests from Manhattan to the reception and back… Still saved money. 🙂 )
Post # 7
@sonj818: thank you so much! i am actually looking into a lot of places in brooklyn which should be a lil cheaper than manhattan, and where we prefer anyway, and my next step would be NJ or LI.
Post # 8
@BBee: Those first few weeks can feel crazy and like you have soooo much to do.
*take a deep breath* *take 5 more* You can, and will, get it all done, you just need to remind yourself that you do have time. I was really into getting our venue and church booked ASAP, and when I started looking in July things were booked for the next September and October..so we’re doing March of 2012.
I’d suggest talking with Fiance (and your families, if you are so inclined) and finding out what size of wedding you’re looking at and how many will be invited (drawing up guestslists, while obviously a rough-rough-draft, really helped Fiance and his folks to see how many people they actually wanted to come..eek!). From there you can look at venues of particular sizes, and book them if they do let you book that far out (we booked ours 18 months out). Really, after venue/ceremony location, you can take care of other ‘big’ things like food and photogs, and all those little other details can wait for months and months. It’s overwhelming at first, but it’ll settle down quickly. Happy planning!