(Closed) I'm Jewish and my husband wants to celebrate Christmas

posted 5 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mirjam:  I tihnk you are going too far. When you look at contemporary Christmas, it’s more about family and togetherness (and consumerism) than anything else. I know with a lot of religious converts, for a good long while there is an emphasis on proving (to yourself and others) that you are genuine in your adopted beliefs. I completely understand that. But celebrating love with your husband is not something you need to fear. I tihnk you guys should celebrate both hanukkah and Christmas as a way of showing each other you care for one another, and respect each other’s beliefs.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i second the celebrating both. As long as he celebrates with you, then celebrate with him as well.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Currently Christmas is just an American consumer holiday revolving around Santa, Christmas lights and a christmas tree. There really is nothing “christian” about the holiday at all. To me, mainstream Christmas is just as American as Thanksgiving. Most of my Jewish and atheist friends celebrate it, so I see nothing wrong with it. (I’m saying this as a religious person who tries to incorporate baby Jesus back in the holiday, but I see nothing religious about santas and christmas trees).

I think you both need to agree on what you should celebrate though. Maybe he has childhood memories of it?

 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mirjam:  Celebrate both. Simple as that. Compromise is something you will have to learn.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I think that you need to be considerate of your fiancé’s traditions and beliefs. If he wants to celebrate Christmas in a secular manner then what does it hurt? Does it really threaten your beliefs? Does he celebrate the Jewish holidays with you?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I’m a little confused. Are you both Jewish? A Jewish-Christian mixed marriage? You’re Jewish & he’s non-religious?

If Christmas is his holiday, it’s important for you guys to come to an agreement on how to share both your holidays. If you are both Jewish or if he is non-religious, maybe you can invite him to join you on your walk for some time alone together as a couple?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My FI is Jewish and we drove around looking at Christmas lights the other day. I’ve put tinsel all over our fireplace and got a mini Christmas tree for our dining room table. We couldn’t find the menorah this year so we just ended up lighting a scented candle.  Last I checked, the FI is still just as Jewish as he was before December. I’ll let you know if that changes and he starts caroling and growing a big white beard though.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Mirjam:  I’m confused, is it “illegal” (for lack of a better term) to celebrate Christmas if you’re Jewish?  My Jewish friends seem to celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah (none of us are very religious though).

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Does he celebrate Hanukkah with you? 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t claim any religion, but I LOVE Christmas. There was actually just a thread about Athiests celebrating the holiday. You can celebrate and participate in the parts that aren’t religious (which, these days is most of it)

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was raised Jewish, but we celebrated (consumer/family) Christmas as well. I didn’t realize until elementary school that it was a religious holiday. My husband and I still celebrate (non-religious) Christmas- we have a tree in our house, lights on the porch, and stockings hung up. We also celebrated Chanukah, sang Chanukah songs, exchanged Chanukah gifts and made latkes. How you celebrate holidays and live your life is of course completely up to you, but why not have the best of both worlds?

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